OralAre you with a guy who doesn’t like foreplay as much as you do?

I was talking to an old client recently. She told me she’d met this great guy. He treated her well, he was attentive, and he wasn’t afraid to show his feelings. “But the problem is David” She said. “He never gives me oral sex. We’ve been together 6 months, and I love him to bits, but I’d do anything for him to go down on me now and then. What can I say to give him the hint?”

Here’s what I told her…        

“Stop dating him. You shouldn’t have to beg for foreplay. You want to be with a guy who can’t wait to go down on you. You want a guy who ravishes your whole body whenever you see each other.”

As women, you deserve to have everything you desire from your relationship. Meaning you should expect to feel fulfilled emotionally, and physically. You deserve great sex. Do you give your boyfriend oral sex? Do you do everything to please him? Because here’s the thing…

Relationships are a two way street, and if you’re giving him amazing foreplay, he should be doing the same for you. If you’re with a guy who isn’t paying you the attention you deserve, you need to consider your deep desires, needs, and wants. Can you live without oral sex? Can you live without foreplay? Do you love him enough to go without those amazing feelings?

You need to put your foot down from the start of a relationship. If you don’t let your man know what you need and enjoy from sex, you’ll end up in a sexless relationship that leaves you frustrated and lonely. You don’t want to date a man who’s selfish in the bedroom.

You’ll know early on if you’re with a sexually selfish man too. The moment you get into the bedroom he’ll leap on you like a cat catching a mouse, you’ll get no foreplay, and within a couple of minutes, he’ll roll off you and fall asleep. I know so many women who can’t wait for their boyfriends to go out so they can play with their vibrators. Who wants to rely on a lump of plastic for amazing orgasms when you’re dating a real human being?

Sex must be passionate. For me sex is like a hunger. Your lover should be like a starving animal thrown a lump of meat when he sees you. In other words, he should be desperate to ravish your body whenever he can. I’m all about equality in relationships, and sex is a big part of that. You should expect great foreplay whether you’ve been in a relationship for six months or six years!

So here’s what you do. If you’re not already with a guy, write down on paper what you desire sexually. Don’t hold back. Write down every dirty little detail as if you’re rewriting the “50 Shades” series. How many times a week do you want sex? How many orgasms do you want? How often do you want to use toys with your boyfriend? What turns you on? Do you like role-play?

Be very clear and detailed. We only get one chance at life and we all deserve to have amazing mind-blowing sex! There’s no reason you should compromise on this.

I want each and every one of you to have amazing sex. If you want a man to ravish, eat, touch, and take care of you every night of your life, write it on your list of desires. And if your boyfriend isn’t up to that task, get rid of him before you become attached. Call it your own form of “Sex Insurance.”

Use it and you’ll never be less than satisfied again!