When It Comes To Dating Tell Your Mother She’s Wrong!!

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By David Wygant July 27, 2011 197 Shares

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I got a great email the other day from one of you.

It is all about how bad advice can lead you to a very lonely dating life.

Lets clear up a few things today.

Check out the email and then listen to today’s podcast.

Its time we got rid of our mothers advice and starting listening to what really works.

Hello David,
I first off want to thank you for all of your useful and I must say funny videos. I am sure that you get a lot of emails but it would mean more than you believe if you could help me out. As I just came across your videos on YouTube tonight.

Here it is.I am a 22 year old female and have never ever been approached by a guy. Im sure you must be thinking that I need to work on my confidence and possibly body image but it is not any of those. I am a normal girl however I am pretty shy, and I tend to be very serious when I am in public alone. Don’t get me wrong if someone comes up to start a conversation, I’m more than nice!

But as my mom always tells me I look too serious and look rather unapproachable, as if I’m not interested in any guy or that I am already with someone. I feel like my attitude my come off as being “bitchy” but that’s not it. I’m a serious girl and I know what I want. But obviously the way that i have been carrying myself has not been working for me 🙂

I especially am serious when I go to the gym, I have my music on and just in my own world. I have tried looking back at guys when they look at me. But I have this thing that if I look, and they look… It kind of cracks me up and I start laughing, I know its weird.. But its just from me being shy. That’s why I always take the serious approach and not look into guys eyes.

I would realllly appreciate ANY advice you can give me. There are a lot of potential guys that I was interested in but things never happened cause of me and me being shy! Especially at the gym!

Thanks a million!!!!!
Lara

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tim

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

Umm, somebody does not like themself!

Tony888

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

Great podcast David. Apparently this one today was for the women/girls. But yeah, I agree. I understand that some girls just want to zone out when they go to the gym or for a run, but if they're lonely and wanting a guy to talk to them, they're putting up a major barrier, a big wall between them & all those opportunities out there to communicate with someone. If you're lonely, don't willfully shut people out. Lose the iGadgets for once and get back to some old school communication. It's called talking.

The Jamie Rule

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

I use to be intimidated by girls that look like they are in a bad mood or too serious which looks about the same. I felt they were working out and just thinking "I hope he doesn't come over and try to hit on me". I found out that when I actually talked to some of them they actually light up and are really cool. For whatever reason like this girl in the email they just don't know how to project themselves to be approachable. Maybe because they take it for granted that guys should automatically find them so attractive and come over and start the conversation. Thats where learning from the things David teaches come in...

Chris

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

WOW!!!!!!!!! Until today I never thought of my Ipod as an antisocial device... I've always used it on the train before school and walking before I get to someplace just to feel good about myself. But i never thought of it as an antisocial device. I guess it was a crutch I have been using to make myself seem more comfortable. Now I don't want it anymore. I still use it to listen to podcast like this that tell me to get rid of my ipod. But I'll leave it at home now.......WOW!!

Brice

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

I need to ditch my anti-social device at the gym too. There is a really cute receptionist. Should talk to her. I'm in good right now because I talk to the male receptionist from time to time and he always cracks on me because I know every song that is being played on the loud speaker and she started talking to me today about the music, which was cool :P

David Wygant

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

@Chris I just finished recording a podcast that i will post in 2 weeks on how technology can kill your dating life. Wait till you hear that one!

David Wygant

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

@brice Ditch it....the gym is a great place to meet women,

Intern Dan

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

This podcast touches on something really important and Jaime and Tony also mention it: Guys are a skittish bunch. When we see a woman with an ipod in her ears we're not talking to you. If you look like you could bite our heads off, we're not going to talk to you... well, the people who listen to David will, but the rest won't. Plus gyms are scary, those women are so toned! Most guys feel they can't compete because you get those few gym rats who look like they could rip apart a bus! Terrifying! If you can say something interesting though, you usually have it made.

Chris

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

@David.... In 2 Weeks, and you just recorded it!!!! Just release it right now, thats a long time. Still I can't wait to listen to it..

Bob

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

Good grief. How obvious can you get? If you are a guy or gal texting, talking on the phone, or listening to music with earpods in, how the hell do you expect anyone to approach you?? Are you kidding me. That's not even a tip, it's so obvious, get real!

Intern Dan

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

Bob, it does seem like an obvious thing but we're so technologically dependent that it's easy to wall yourself off with technology and not really notice it. Look at Facebook and twitter. Wait 20 years and we'll all be communicating in 140 character bursts. It'll be terrible!

Kevin

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

If I see a cute girl walk by when I'm at the gym on the treadmill,am I supposed to jump off it in the middle it and talk to her?

David S.

Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

David, the title of this is When It Comes To Dating Tell Your Mother She's Wrong, however you said the same exact things that the mother said to Lara! "But as my mom always tells me I look too serious and look rather unapproachable, as if I’m not interested in any guy or that I am already with someone." I understand what you're saying David, I especially know the hazards of using my ipod everywhere I go because I feel everybody does it and I might as well do it too since i'll never find an opening if everyone else is closed off. Be careful about titles because what you said in the article doesn't correlate to the title.

David Wygant

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

@David The title grabbed your attention so it worked:)

Intern Dan

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

@Kevin, You don't have to jump off the treadmill to get talk to her... to be honest, when I'm "dreadmilling" I'm so far into my zone that I couldn't talk to anyone intelligently. But if you see a cute girl on a treadmill you could go to the one beside her, smile and challenge her to a race.

Mel

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

David W. I agree bout the I stuff. As a girl, there have been times I'm walking my dogs at the park & wanted to say something to a guy or even did try, to realize he was oblivious & couldn't hear due to head phones! It really cuts off communication. Best to leave at least one ear bud out of left ear, so upon passing at least something could be heard. Gotta admit tho, I'm with David S. on the title/ lack of correlation. Problem with that lack of continuity could raise some to be distrustful of your advice. I almost didn't listen to your podcast because of it. FYI. I know you do have a lot of good advice David, so it would stink for new people who didn't know, to dismiss you. Sometimes it pays off to listen to mom. Biggest thing is listen to people who have demonstrated success in relationships & communication. Some moms have it, some may not. I was hoping your mom may have contributed positively to your skills D.W.

john

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

I'm with Bob here. Good grief!!! You can't come up with anything better than this!, my god!,, what a waste of my time! Everyone know this. Geez!!! ( lol,, J/k.) , :)

Mike

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

My mom tells me she is very protective of me...lol As far as the energy, it is true. Like today, I was visiting my mom in the hospital, a woman looked at me and smiled and I said "hi" to her as I walked by. She responded by saying "hi" back. I passed others who had no eye contact and no smile, like they were lost in the own little world without the ipad or iphone. The cute nurse's assistant, her facial expression at first didn't seem very friendly to me so I avoided saying "hi" to her. I must admit my energy level was down, I was very tired. I continued to talk to my mom and noticed the nurse's assistant seemed to be ignoring me as she grabbed a blanket where I was sitting but avoiding eye contact. I talked to her the previous day, and she was more friendly then. She is very good with my mom, I was really impressed with her. Then I made her laugh by making a comment about my mom and I got the friendly vibe back from her that I had felt the previous day. I'm not sure if she was just shy, or thee was something bothering her at first.

Chris

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

I gotta say David Wygant It's true...... One day with no ipod, and I had more real conversatins in one day then I had in any other days in my whole life!! And I talked to women too.....There not that scary, because they want to talk to me too.. I think it was 8 maybe more if I can't remember. With women, older women, older men, men, everybody. I just talked to everybody. I didn't have that stupid Ipod, god that was such a anti social device. ASD.

Chris

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

In a way you helped me connect with all those people, you helped me make connections!! and ofcourse me!!

Kevin

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

My mom is a selfish person, she really is. Every conversation you have with her always gets back to her and want she wants,she doesn't think of other people or how they might feel.

John

Friday, July 29th, 2011

Dan hits the mark pretty well. It makes it a lot easier to approach someone if it looks like they're friendly and light-hearted. Generally men are afraid to approach girls if it looks like there is a chance they will bite your head off or punch you in the throat. =P . Some of us guys worry if we're bugging you, the seriousness makes it feel like if we did come talk to you, we would be bugging you. But in actuality everyone wants to be talked to and enjoy each others company.

the other john.

Saturday, July 30th, 2011

If this girl has never been approached, it must be because she is FAT,,, or ugly,, but most guys I know can deal with ugly,, so my money is on FAT.

Donnie

Sunday, July 31st, 2011

When you said to listen to the music in the gym I threw up in my mouth a little bit, good podcast though!

Intern Dan

Sunday, July 31st, 2011

@the other John: Every woman you see has at least 5 guys fantasizing about being with her naked. Women are like flavours of ice cream. Maybe mint chocolate chip isn't your favourite flavour, but it is surely someone else's.

Steve

Monday, August 1st, 2011

I couldnt leave my ipod at home I wouldnt get any work done at the gym.

Anna

Wednesday, August 10th, 2011

i had no idea that ipods were so effective in destroying communication. my buddy is always wondering why no one approaches him. guess i have his answer now. now i just need mine. i'm friendly when people talk to me but never get approached. its like i'm invisable. how can i start conversations when it seems people have already made up their mind that im not worth their time

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