Should You Kiss Her After the First Date?

kiss on her first date david wygant I get this question all the time in my inbox:

“I’ve got a date and I want to escalate sexually with her. What should I do?”

So many guys always wonder what to do at the end of a first date.

Do you kiss her?

Do you invite her back to your house?

Do you make a move on her?

Do you try to sleep with her?

I always like to play it safe, and I’m going to let you know why.

If I’ve got off the charts sexual chemistry with a woman, I know it’s also going to be there the next day. So I’m going to resist all urges to invite her back to my house for a couple of reasons.

Reason #1: I want her to feel safe. Because women want to feel safe, they want to feel secure, they want to feel that they’re with a man that understands a woman’s needs, wants, and desires.

Reason #2: I want her to know that I have self-control. The reason why women love men that are in control is because then they will presume that he’s actually a pretty good lover. A lot of men are one-pump minute-men or three-minutes-and-under guys.

Show her that you’re not that guy.

Reason #3: I want to trigger the switch inside her female brain that lets her know that she’s with a patient man. The man that slowly seduces her from date number one is the man that slowly gets her burning for him.

The dude that’s trying to make out with her at the end of the first date, grabbing her ass, trying to bring her back to his house, is usually the guy that’s worse off in bed.

So, when you’re on that first date, and you do want to kiss her at the end, I always say that a simple kiss on the lips, looking directly into her eyes, pulling back, looking into her eyes some more, and then maybe another quick kiss on the lips–that’s how to make her think about you for the rest of the night and into the morning.

It’s seduction, guys, and most men don’t understand the principle behind it. They always think that they need to have a heavy make out session, grab her hand, touch her ass, or whatever it might be.

But a simple kiss and the eye contact afterwards shows her that you’re a strong, powerful, confident guy that knows how to seduce women.

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robert

Saturday, January 5th, 2013

but what happens during the first date if you do that, and she say's are you not going to kiss me ? this happens after you do the simple kiss, then what ?

confidencemagnet

Sunday, January 6th, 2013

I'm on the fence with this one, David. Some women want to get laid that night. Women love telling stories to their girlfriends about how they met a guy who gave them a wonderful date and "rocked them to sleep" (in a good way, cuz I know u might try to turn that statement around)at the end of the night. Seduction has it's place but only if you know for a fact that this woman doesn't go cold the next day. That'll feel like wasted effort and you'll have to warm her up again. Who knows she may be busy all week long and that moment you had with her on that first date might wear off.

Jorge

Once you have that first date, especially if it's night time, it is pretty obvious if a girl likes a guy. Just make sure when you go for the kiss, that it is a "gentle" one. The heavy stuff will come later. She will let you know with ther actions and body language what her level of attrcation is.

bob

I have found the quicker you can "bed" a girl you are going out with (sooner the better, first date is the best) the faster she will become comfortable with you, trust you, make up her mind about you, becoming her regular lover, and girlfriend and disqualify all her other suitors. You must be well experienced in your methods of seduction, and skilled at making your date completely comfortable and trusting in you. Don't try to hard, but let her know from the start that you intend to make a lover of her. As I said, bed a girl as quickly as possible for the greatest outcome.

Melissa

Monday, January 7th, 2013

Wow, interesting opinions, men. If you don't kiss me...I will assume you just want to be my friend and didn't like the date. Because that's what I am telling *you* when I just go for the hug. If you try to have sex with me? Ugh. I've done it a couple of times on the first date and it's all been weird and horrible. Tell you why: 1. You don't know my body. You don't know what it takes to get me off. 2. You don't know ME. You can't look into my eyes and give me that feeling, that connection...if you try to? I will look away because I will only see naked lust. I will not see an emotional connection. 3. Men these days seem to want to pull out all the stops the first go-round. Every position, every sex act. It borders on ridiculous. Wasn't too long ago that 90% of the shit a man tries to pull on me or get me to do was the stuff that couples would attempt on their 10 year anniversary to 'spice things up'....Slow. It. The. Fuck. Down. Why do men want to bang this way? It's literally the word, 'BANG'. Like a gun goes off and they are off to the races. What I wouldn't GIVE for a fabulously slow love-making session (yeah, I said it), looking at each other, letting it build. Dudes, seriously. What's not to like about that? Or are ya'll going to tell me that even fucking without my legs jacked around my ears is a fairytale these days? Wishful thinking? Because if that's the case, I'll just die without getting laid again because I am tired of your selfish antics.

Melissa, You and I are nothing but mammals, so why don't we do it like in the Discovery Channel? :)

Tuesday, January 8th, 2013

Haha, Jorge. Nice quote.

Solen

Hi, I go to college. I met a girl and i kind of showed that i liked her. Like from nowhere I just went and said my name is Solen I wanted to meet you(But it's not like the first time I saw her, in fact we made plenty of eye-contact, so I assumed she may have been wanting to meet with me too). Anyway, we met in school and had coffee and talked 1 on 1 for 2-3 times, so we slightly know each other but we never made a physical contact. I'm planning to ask her out for a lunch while it is holiday. Would that be our first date, should I kiss her? I like to kiss her,I think that if I don't kiss her she would think that I'm not interested, but also I have that fear of rejecting the kiss. What should I do? Thanks do much for helping

Glen

To kiss or not to kiss is not the question. I think where and how to kiss is the question... The kiss then will tell you if you are going to get laid or not :) If the kiss is hot then go for it... may it be the first or the last date...

Riley

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Why wouldnt you kiss her after the first date?

Should You Kiss Her After the First Date?

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