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Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.
Attraction, definitely.
If my state of mind is solid, then meeting women will become easy, and the ones that don't want to come along with me, it's ok, because I could care less. I define who I am in my life, not other people.
Tommorow there is this monthly Salsa party taking place in my town. I asked some girls from my fitness club to cmoe join me. They declined, and the one from my martial arts class said that maybe she would go.
I am going anyways, because there are going to be tons of women there at the party. I am still going to enjoy myself.
Anonymous--Please define "MAN". In fact, I think it would be beneficial if we could all have a solid definition of that word.
Young women have been annoying me as of late. They want a "MAN". Am I not attractive at 17? I don't look younger than I am. Why am I always compartmentalized and put into the friend zone?
I dress well, smell nice, look nice...What is the problem? Can someone tell me why I've been pushed into the friend zone, and can someone tell me how I can tell if a girl with a boyfriend is attracted to me?
I'm sorry, I'm just frustrated.
If anyone has any answers, let me know. Thanks.
Drew
Drew,
I know your confusion. I was once in your situation. When a woman says she wants a man, it has to do with his personality, not so much his looks.
As far as your looks go, dressing well and so on....keep it up.
Women want men that lead, in every situation. Maybe you will get a girl that likes you so much, and even sends signals to you that she wants to kiss, but if you dont pick up on that, you can blow that situation, she feels rejected and you are put in the friends zone.
Also do not try and play it safe, and do not seek their approval. Treat them like you would treat your normal friends, tease them, bust on them. Take risks, ask her out on a date or something. Could be something like: "Hey Samantha, I'm going to surf at malibu beach this weekend, wanna come with? She says yes or no. Either response does not really matter, because YOU are going to go anyway and enjoy yoursself.
In the end it all comes down to your personality
The say I see it, men don't pass their responsibilities off to others, men are leaders, men aren't passive, and men see the long term, not the short term
Regarding changing their attitudes toward you, it's pretty hard. Be extremely confident and funny and you might be able to pull it off.
Drew,
Thing is, you have to work on YOU. You can change their impression of you. But in order to do that, you need to make a good impression on the ones that don't know you. There are many women out there, so I would not focus on the ones that already know me. If you commit yourself to evolve every day, you are going to see changes.
See, we all make mistakes and slip-ups. But if you don't make a big deal out of it, others won't either.
Drew,
Have you listened to the Men's Mastery Series before? If you haven't, I recommend it.
Being a man is about being decisive and knowing when to take charge. If she claims you aren't being a man, most of the time, it means you are being too nice, too accommodating to others and you don't put yourself first.
It's usually about being able to command respect in others b/c you respect yourself first (your needs first) and then learning to accommodate others from that place of strength, of self love, of self respect... instead of accommodating others from a place of wanting to please others.
As some of the other guys said... it's about leadership and being active.
Oh... it could also refer to your understanding of sexual roles. A man usually isn't afraid of taking action... and leading the woman down the sexual path.
As I said earlier, are you too "tentative" in your actions? Do you constantly ask for "permission" all the time?
Kheim, TK, David,
I have a question relevant to this:
Friday I was at a pharmacy picking up some medication and there was a really cute blonde working the counter I hadn't seen before. I asked how long she had been working there cause, as I stated I hadn't seen her before. She said, she had been there several months. So I said something like, "Well, my timing has been lousy I guess cause I've never been here at the right times before."
But what I really wanted to say to her was the first thing that came to my mind when I saw her, which was "My, you're a cutie!"
Should I have just gone ahead and said that with a nice, warm, confident smile? Or would that be too aggressive an approach?
Tony,
I think both approach is good. It really depends on that warm vibe that you gave. If you own your words, I don't see how either approaches are bad. It's all about whether you meant what you said. If you meant it, that's all that matters.
I do ask for permission a lot, and I apologize often...I thought I was simply being polite. I told the girl with the boyfriend that I liked her. She was very sweet about it. But do I have a chance with her if the time comes?
I've been good about challenging her and flirting. I just want to know if I have a chance. It seems like they bounce back quickly after breaking up.
Drew,
Go meet other women. Do not focus so much on this one, no matter how hot she is. I know, it's difficult. Good job on challenging her and flirting.
Be in love with yourself first, and others will be in love with you. What I am trying to say is, be an active player in your life. Do the things you love doing, do stuff you are passionate about. It could be going to the movies every saturday, or going to the beach 3 times a week.
Once you love the life you live, opportunities with women will arise, and you will no longer put your full attention on just one girl.
I am personally experiencing this right now, thanks to the advice of my fitness coach.
Drew, the "friend zone" is like the Phantom Zone in Superman, it's tough to get out of, but not impossible. There's some good videos on Youtube about this subject, I suggest you do a search. Here's a few tips I've picked up. The first thing you have to do is pull back a little, don't always say yes to her. It'll feel good to say no, trust me. (It takes a little power away from her.)
Girl: "Drew, wanna come to the mall with me tonight and get some food at the indian place we love?"
Drew: "Sorry. I've got plans tonight. Maybe next week."
If she jokingly asks "Gotta hot date?", then say "something like that." It's not lying, you're just being vague. If she's made it clear that you're just friends, then start talking to her like a friend, mention other girls you're interested in, use her as a wingman to meet other prospects. If you can get her a little jealous, that'll do wonders. She needs to see a different side to you, become a bit of player (which doesn't mean you have to sleep around, just be more flirty with other women, more touchy feelie and playful.) Ultimately she'll probably get interested in you when you move on and lose interest in her...that's the sad truth of it, but you can fake that a little bit, maybe work some magic. Now check out those videos on youtube. I think Kezia Noble has a good one about getting out of the friend zone.
Tony, with that pharmacy girl I would have said something like "Man, I guess I picked the wrong week to get The Clap." Or if you're feeling ballsy "Do you guys sell any products that will make me finish quicker in the sack? From what I've read in Cosmo, most women don't want to make love for 2 or 3 hours. Right? I've got a real problem here."
I was behind a cute girl in line at the pharmacy recently and I used a similar line. I looked at her and said "You get The Clap too? It's going around." She cracked up. I didn't make a play for her, but I made her laugh.
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