Wingmen
By David Wygant

Have you ever thought that maybe the group of friends you go out with on Friday and Saturday nights are bringing you down?

You know when I go out on a Friday night, I go out to do some serious people watching. What I see over and over again are groups of people that have the emotional tampon with them. You know to whom I am referring . . . that person who just can’t seem to have a good time.

The emotional tampon will stand there with his hands in his pockets while his friends try to talk to women. You can just see the emotional torture from which that person is suffering. He is just not happy . . . at all. Whenever one of the emotional tampon’s friends try to talk to a woman, he will usually walk over to them and ruin the conversation.

I know you’re trying to be a good friend by taking the walking emotional tampon out with you. You are really not doing yourself any favors, though, unless you’re also an emotional tampon and the two of you can bleed each other’s emotions all night.

Whom you choose to run with is as important as how you communicate. If you’re going out with someone who brings you down, then you are not going to have a good time. You are going to be so aware of that person’s negative energy, that you are not going to be able to have fun or to be intriguing that night.

You will always be wondering whether or not the emotional tampon is having a good time. So how can you have fun if you’re babysitting someone all night long? Women do this all the time.

They go out in cliques comprised of one woman who is really good at flirting with men and two others who will sit there and get angry when the other one gets all the attention. If you are a guy who is interested in one of the women in this type of group, it is really hard to get to know her when you have to deal with her friends who are needy and attention-starved.

So think about the people you run with if you when you go out your objective is to meet people. If your friends are not good wingmen (or wingwomen), then I suggest finding new ones or spending some time with those friends outside the pickup arena in situations that will help them work on their confidence. You can also send them to me and I’ll kick their ass.

When I go out I want to enjoy myself and have fun, so I always go out with people who are equally as sociable as I am. That way I don’t worry about them all night long.

So choose your wingmen wisely. It’s hard enough to create good first impressions and to create good opportunities. You don’t want your friends ruining them for you.

Your friend’s social life is not your responsibility. So be a good friend to the emotional tampon and suggest he gets some help.

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