Women love gentlemenDespite what a lot of you think, women love gentlemen. That’s right. Forget being a “bad guy” or a thug. Women love a man who knows how to treat a lady. Women love it when you open the car door, pull their chair out for them at a restaurant, or put your hand on the small of their back to lead them into wherever you’re going. Another great move that makes women feel safe and comfortable with you, is when you walk on the sidewalk nearest to the traffic to protect her. What’s so good about that is women don’t even realize consciously why it makes them feel good about you.

One thing I always do when I’m with a woman is to open the car door for her. I don’t do it because I’m a gentleman, but to protect my OCD. I never let a woman open my car door because women have a habit of destroying your paintjob. I’m sorry ladies, but did you ever look inside the little scoop inside your door handle? Some of the cars I’ve seen belonging to women look as if an angry cat has clawed at them.

Granted, some of you probably don’t even notice it but I see every single scratch and blemish on my car. The other thing ladies, is if you wear rings, be careful when you open the door. It’s so easy to scratch the paint with your rings. You’d have thought car manufacturers would have figured this out. Some BMWs now put a little three-end cutout inside the door handle so you don’t damage the paint.

The other thing I see women do, (although I caught a guy doing it the other day at the grocery store) is slamming their bags or boxes on top of the car. Then they just drag it off and scrape it along the roof. Then they wonder why their roof is all damaged. Mind you, this guy was crazy because he also slammed his car door so hard he must have damaged it!

Perception is a funny thing. I always have women telling me what a gentlemen I am for opening the car door for them, but they didn’t know (until now) I have ulterior motives!

How Important Is Being A Gentlemen Around Women?

Joking aside guys… it is important to be a gentleman when you’re with a woman. And that doesn’t mean you have to be a pussy about it either. I’m not saying you have to run around after her, and comment every few seconds about how “pretty she looks” or how her “eyes shimmer like the stars.”

That kind of behavior will get you stuck in the friend-zone quicker than you can say FIRST DATE!

It’s all about showing her you’re confident in yourself, and you’re experienced enough to know how to treat a lady. Remember, when you’re with a woman for the first couple of dates, she’s constantly assessing whether you’re boyfriend material or whether you’re just a cool friend. Unless you want to spend your life high fiving and chest bumping her (and not in a good way) I suggest you learn to get the balance right.

It’s about showing her you’re strong, confident, and comfortable in her company. Don’t half-heartedly pull out her chair like when you’re trying to pass someone in a narrow corridor, and neither of you know which way to go. Confidently walk over to the chair and in one movement pull it strongly out for her.

The same way as I always tell you to own your words, you have to own your actions too. So next time you’re on a first date or something, don’t forget, women do like gentleman, but MANLY gentleman. And for goodness sake, if you care about your car paintwork, make sure you get around and open the door for her!