Why the Future and The Past is Just a Story
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We’re constantly thinking about things that happen to us in the past. I’m guilty of it too. I’m pissed at myself for certain things. We’re all pissed at ourselves for certain things. I’ve been a little too generous with money and other people.
Some days, I wake up and I look around and I’m kind of pissed. I drive in my neighborhood and look a the $2M home. I think to myself, I should be living there. I’ve worked hard enough, I can afford it. And I’m right but then the story comes in and says, how?
If you didn’t give away so much money, you actually could be living in that home right now. I’m guilty of that, too. I sometimes live in the past. I’m angry about the past. I’m angry about some of my decisions.
The thing is, every time you’re in the past, you’re not in the present. So whenever you’re feeling funky about the past, whenever you’re angry about things that you’ve done, the mistakes you’ve made, the things that you didn’t do, you’re going to miss the present moment. You’re going to miss the connections you could be having in that present moment which will actually take you to the future that you blew in the past. Think about that.
So think about if you go with anything, the house you didn’t buy or money you didn’t make or girl you didn’t talk to or friend you didn’t have anything to say to. Every time you’re angry about the past, you’re not going to be able to create a new future. You’re going to stay in that past. You’re going to stay angry and upset.
The past is something you need to let go. You see, we’re human beings.
We make mistakes.
We fuck up.
We are going to continue to make mistakes because we are not really present in the gift of the present.
You see, God, the universe, everything you believe in, needed to teach you those lessons. Those lessons that came your direction, the money you lent a friend who never paid you back.
The exwife who was an illusion, who was so beautiful that cost you all this money because you were so caught up in her beauty — that was a lesson.
The friend who kind of blew you off in a way that still makes you feel unsettled — that was a lesson.
Your relationship to your mom or your dad — that was a lesson.
Life gave you those lessons to make you a strong person so you don’t have to repeat it. The problem is, most of us repeat the same mistakes over and over again because we don’t look at the lessons we are presented with.
My mistake is always lending money. I’ve never been paid back. I’ve should’ve learned the lesson the first time. So what did I do? I had to do it three more times before I finally realized, holy shit, I can’t lend money to anybody anymore. Nobody pays me back.
You see, God, the universe, whatever you believe in give you these lessons for a reason so you can become present. It doesn’t give you these lessons to continually fuck up. So how do you get present?
It’s really simple. You forgive yourself for all the fuck ups you’ve done in the past.
You forgive yourself for lending your money to your uncle Bill.
You forgive yourself for marrying that hot girl that turned into a bitch and drives you nuts.
You forgive yourself for every illusion that’s ever been given. You forgive yourself for everything you’ve ever done and you accept the fact that you’re one flawed motherfucking human.
But it’s okay to be that flawed person. So that’s step number one. Step number two is realizing that everything that’s in the present moment is a gift.
Everything that’s happening to you right now is a gift. It’s a gift. Life is giving you this gift. It’s giving you these people that are in your life right now so you can learn from them. So you can correct the mistakes and do something different.
Not only that, but you can also recognize a pattern that’s showing up and you can say no to it.
Say no to pussy. Say no to lending money. Say no to drugs. Say no to the alcohol. Say no to the food that doesn’t make you feel good.
The universe is doing this for a reason. When you’re present, you will be able to recognize the gifts. You’ll be able to recognize what doesn’t work for you, and then what happens? The $2M home that you didn’t buy in the past will then manifest in the future. The woman that didn’t satisfy you in the past will not show up again, and what will show up is exactly what you want.
The money that you lost in the past will not keep being lost in the future. New money will be made because money is just energy.
All we have is this present moment. Let’s take it one step further.
Imagine you’re thinking about what your future looks like. Imagine you’re thinking about what fuck ups you did in your past.
And as you’re doing that, you’re all caught up in all this angst and anxiety, so you’re not present at all. You’re full of so much anxiety that you take a step off the curb and you don’t notice the big bus coming your direction. All of a sudden, you become a flattened pancake of human mush on the ground.
I know something like that may or may not happen to you, but the fact is if you live every day to its fullest and realize you that you might be dead the next day, you’ll start really paying attention to what’s really going on in your life, to what’s really important in life. To what’s really happening in life. That to me is where you need to be. That to me is where you need to go. And that to me is where you need to remain connected.
The gifts of daily life all happen in the present. Stay connected. Forgive yourself for fucking up. You’re only a human being. And allow your future to take a whole new shape. You see, you can manifest anything into your life. You have that power. You can manifest money. You can manifest feelings. You can manifest people. You can manifest anything you want, but you have to remain present.
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Saturday, November 5th, 2016