I get emails all the time asking me this question: “I like a girl (or guy). I don’t know how I can make her like me more. What do I have to do? Can you please tell me how to get someone to like me more?”

Here is my advice on this. Get on your hands and knees, look up at them and beg them. Stare right into their eyes and say, “Please like me more. Please, oh superior being, like me more. Please tell me how to get you to like me more. What do I need to do? How do I need to change? What do I need to do in order for you to like me more? And, if you like me more when I become this person you want me to become, will you love me? Will you love me so much? Will you never abandon me?”

How does all that sound to you? Desperate? Disgusting? Despicable?

Aren’t you good enough as you are? Aren’t you an amazing person right now? Don’t you deserve to have people like you for who you are because you’re a great person?

Also, if that person doesn’t like you then there is nothing you can do to make them like you. Why would you want to make someone like you anyway? Why would you want to beg someone to like you?

Don’t you want somebody to like you for who you are? If they don’t, there is no relationship there. They are basically in a position of power, and you’re in the weak position.

I really hate when I get this email from people. Please like me more. Please love me. No!

You need to love yourself. You need to like yourself. You need to respect yourself.

A person who respects himself will never beg and will never ask how to get someone to like him more. A person who respects himself already knows that he is an amazing person, and if someone doesn’t like him then there will be other people who will like him.

So stop that behavior. Start loving yourself.