why won't she date meWhat is “the big why?”

Why do so many people suffer from “the big why?”

Well, let me explain. Here’s what the big why is, and what it really stands for. It’s like an epidemic spreading around the world. It’s the disease of wanting to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you.

Every day I get emails from people who say, “I’m with this girl. She’s the love of my life, but she’s pulling away from me. It’s as if she doesn’t want to be with me anymore. She’s even said we should think about splitting up. She’s breaking my heart. How can I win her back?”

There are so many different versions of that too. Every single day, another version hits my inbox from some guy pining for a girl who doesn’t want them. I went out with a friend for dinner the other night. She was telling me about a guy she really wants to date. But no matter what she does, he doesn’t seem to want to commit to her. He’s even told her a few times he doesn’t want a relationship. Still, she looked at me and said, “David, you’re an expert. If anybody can tell me how to get him, it’s you!”

So I looked at her and said. “You suffer from the big why. Why the fuck do you want to be with somebody who doesn’t want to be with you?”

Why do you guys pine after someone who doesn’t want you?

She doesn’t want to be with you. She doesn’t want to have sex with you. She doesn’t want to be in a relationship. She doesn’t want to get romantic with you. She doesn’t want to marry you. She doesn’t even want to be your friend anymore because you’ve screwed it up so badly.

Why do you want to be with somebody who doesn’t want you?

Are you that insecure? Are you a guy who likes pain, punishment, and torture? Do you feel as if you don’t deserve a great relationship, because that’s what your words tell me. When I hear this from people all I think about that person is that they really must believe they’re a poor, pathetic loser who doesn’t deserve the love of an amazing woman. Sorry if I’m being harsh, but if you’re pining after a woman who doesn’t want you, you need a slap round the face.

You need a jackhammer up your ass. You need something that’s going to shake you and make you realize the person you’re pining for doesn’t want you!

They’ve clearly stated it or told you how they feel. So why would you try to change their mind or to win them back?

How Can I Win Her Back?

How can you get her back? Why do you want her back if she doesn’t want you?

We live in a world full of men chasing women who don’t want them. It’s amazing. You might have thought this woman was the love of your life, but in reality, you’re not the love of theirs and that’s all that matters. Move forward. There’s a woman out there who will want you. There’s a woman out there you can be with. There’s a woman you can exchange romantic interludes with in the way you want.

I know I’m being an asshole right now. I know I’m being super harsh. But someone needs to put a verbal jackhammer up your ass. Otherwise, you’re going to keep chasing for no reason. You see, I’d rather be alone than with someone who doesn’t want me. Being alone is wonderful. It’s peaceful. It’s easy. You don’t have to chase something that doesn’t exist.

Don’t be so afraid of being alone. Don’t be afraid of what alone is. Because once you heal and you see the light, you’ll get your confidence back. You’ll start to feel better, and you’ll see there are hundreds of other women who do want to be with you. You’ll see there are women out there who won’t make you chase “the big why?”

Hopefully, this gets through to all you guys pining after women who don’t want them. I’m sorry for being rough today. Hopefully, some of you shed a tear. Hopefully some of you got really pissed at me. “What an asshole. What a prick. He’s wrong!”

Whatever emotions I triggered in you today, you know I’m right.

Get your house in order, and stop chasing the woman who doesn’t want you!