Well, it depends how evolved of a caveman he is.

You see my whole life, I was always taught to respect a woman, and I also was taught women are the most contradictory species in the world. So one minute they can say sleepover, no sex, and then 25 minutes later curled up in bed, you could be having great sex.

I know when a woman says this to me, it’s what she’s feeling in that moment. The moment can change three hours later, five hours later, or when we wake up. But in that moment she’s looking to build trust.

But I’m also evolved. And if a woman says to me sleepover, no sex, I’m okay with it. I hear sleepover, no sex, but most men don’t hear that at all.

The average man is going to hear this: sleepover = sex.

Please, I’ve got amazing moves; she’s not going to be able to resist me. She wants sex, but she doesn’t want to say she wants sex, but this is her being a good girl.

She really does want me and this is her telling me that she wants me, but she wants me to be the aggressor. So when I get back to her house, I’ll make sure that I have sex with her.

Oh, yeah, men’s minds are twisted, distorted —  hell, you’ve been dealing and dating with them for years, so you know exactly what their minds are like.

So, what do you need to say to him to further get your point across?

You need to talk to him like he’s a four-year-old. The first time he hears it, he doesn’t know. No means yes, yes means yes, maybe means yes.

So you need to look at him and say hey, I’m really enjoying getting to know one another.

I’d love for you to sleep over tonight, bring your pajamas. We can curl up, watch a movie, cuddle in bed.

But I’m not emotionally ready for sex yet, and I want you to understand that before you come over.

You see that’s going deeper into it. If you just say sleepover, no sex, he’s going to go off in the direction that I just said before. So you literally need to communicate with him as best as possible.

It’s also a good way to test him, to see whether or not he can behave.

I love sleepovers with no sex. I miss them. I haven’t really had anybody I’ve been interested in in a long time. Probably the thing that I miss the most is the sleepover part. The getting to know one another. The curling up to cuddle. So the more you explain to him where you’re at, the less gray area he’ll be working in.

Men are all about avoiding the gray area. Come out of that gray, be in the black and white.