I want to share a story with you about a woman named Amy.

Amy’s 41-years-old. Never been married.

Amy desperately would love to have children. Amy desperately would love to settle down and have a family. Amy desperately would like to have that white picket fence.

Amy desperately has so many expectations about what a man should be. She’s got this long laundry list of things that she wants a man to be.

Literally, there are 27 things on Amy’s wish list for what she wants a man to be. And if the man doesn’t fulfill some of these on the first date, well then Amy is off to the next date.

The Professional Online Dater

Amy’s a professional dater. She’s on every imaginable website.

OkCupid.

Match.com.

eHarmony.

Amy’s on Tinder and Bumble and Hinged.

Amy’s even signed up for the service It’s Just Lunch. You see, Amy is a corporate raider, corporate executive.

Amy has decided that she is going to run her dating life like her business life, which is actually pretty smart if you ask me.

But Amy believes that the men on the first date need to fulfill some of the things on her wish resume, otherwise it’s onto the next. And that’s where Amy is dating wrong.

You see, I have no problem with women like Amy who are going to go and attack all the websites and try to get as many men into their life as possible and go out on a ton of dates until they find the right guy. I’ve met lots of women that have done these massive action, massive result plans, and they’ve all found great men through that process. They committed to finding a relationship, they committed to going out on lots of dates, and they’ve committed to finding a boyfriend, husband, father of their future children.

But Amy does something wrong, and a lot of women do the same thing. They have too many first date expectations.

Eliminate First Date Expectations

A first date should have zero expectations. A first date should be simple, it’s just an exchange of energy between two people. An opportunity for two people to sit down and get to know each other in a safe setting.

Boy meets girl, girl meets boy, phone numbers are exchanged, girl swipes boy, boy swipes girl.

The first date is just an opportunity for the two of you to really get to know one another in a very safe setting.

You should have no first date expectations at all. A first date should just be simple. First dates should be joyous and fun. It should be about listening to one another and seeing what the other person is all about. The first date is just an opportunity to get to know one another, to see whether or not you want to see each other again. It’s not about the laundry list of things that need to be fulfilled.

Because once you lose the expectations, you actually go in and you become more fun.

Today’s video goes deep into this subject to help you find a relationship.