What You Notice When You’re Alone
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You know it’s really amusing when you go away by yourself.
You tend to notice things that you wouldn’t have noticed otherwise.
I noticed a lot of co-coupling.
Do you know what co-coupling is?
It’s when couples go together on a vacation. It’s no longer a couple’s vacation; it’s a co-couples vacation.
I was sitting at dinner and I overheard a co-couples conversation behind me. One woman said to another, “I’ll be honest right now. We have problems. I just have so much to unload right now…”
They bring the other couple along not for companionship necessarily; they bring them along so they have somebody who will understand their situation.
It’s either that their kids have been difficult or their marriage isn’t great right now, so they bring along the friend, the companion. That way then their husband—who they probably don’t want to be with as much as they think—goes out to play golf with the other male half of the co-couple, she has someone to get her nails done with.
Or vice-versa. When the ladies are shopping, the men can do man-things all day. They can play man-golf, they can do man-tennis, they can go man-surfing, they can do man-bonding. They can leave the women to sit around and basically unload on one another about where their life is at, what they’re doing, and whether they’re happy.
That’s what a co-couple vacation is. You’re bringing along your shrink, your friend, your buddy, your adversary. That way, if you get into it with your husband or your wife on the trip, you’ve got somebody to back you up.
You sit around and you watch people on vacation and the way they interact, the way they move together, they way they don’t touch. You can really tell a lot about people by just watching them, by looking at them.
And that’s something that I stress to all of you all the time. If you just do this and you ignore the screens on your smartphones and pa attention to the world, you’ll notice so many amazing things about life.
And then you’ll never run out of things to talk about.
I could have easily interjected into that conversation I overheard.
“Oh, I get it. You can’t wait for dinner so you can get to the part about the kids.”
Just something simple, said with a smile and it could have led to more. If they really were going to bitch about their husbands then they really may have enjoyed a man saving them from having that conversation, and turning it into something light.
Little things lead to conversations.
That’s how simple you can make life by just paying attention to everything that’s around you.
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