women who flakeI know. It happens a lot right guys?

You meet a woman. You’re into her. She seems super cool. After a great conversation, you get her phone number. You text back and forth a few times, and try to set up a date. That’s when she turns into Ms. Flake. You thought you’d read the signs right, and now she’s blowing you off. She probably was interested in you. She did show signs of interest so you weren’t going mad. The truth is you’re probably dealing with a woman who has read way too many self-help books and magazines, and has taken too much advice from her friends. Have you ever looked at all the self-help books for women? There are so many mixed messages out there it’s crazy.

Every single woman who writes a book or magazine on dating for women tells them to do things differently. Some tell women to be open and vulnerable, some tell women to play games, others tell women to wait 3 days before calling a man back. You should see some of the crap the media and women’s magazines feed women every single day.

Most these so-called experts are women who are alone and angry with men, or have been married for 30 years and haven’t been on a date since High School. The reason some women play so many games is that’s what the experts taught them. Don’t ever expect to know exactly what a woman is thinking at any one time, because they’ll feel something one day and something different the next. Women are walking contradictions all the time.

Don’t think a date is in the bag just because you connected with her when you met. You see, what happens is, after you meet they go back to that book they read, and work out how to play you. They met a guy like you before and it didn’t work out so now they’re going to try out some different “tactics.” They don’t want to make the same mistakes this time. They might speak to their friends and hear another 3 different ways to play you. They’ll break down your first meeting and try to work out whether you’re worth pursuing.

Their intuition may say, “This guy seems nice. Open up and give him a chance,” but if the book they’ve read says something different they won’t. Women are walking contradictions. It’s just the way they are. Plus, let’s be honest here, they’ve probably been hurt by guys in the past, so we probably haven’t helped ourselves much. So next time you meet a great woman, be excited about her. Be present, open, and authentic.

If she doesn’t get back to you, start tapping into that abundant mindset we’ve spoken about. Remember there are plenty of women out there. You’re the gift. Even if you don’t date that much, remember you’re the gift. You can rock a woman’s world. If a woman flakes on you, by the time you’re dating your beautiful girlfriend, you won’t even remember this woman’s name.

There are so many women out there looking for a spectacular guy like you. Eventually you’ll meet a woman who hasn’t read all these ridiculous books, and won’t be paranoid about guys hurting them. When that happens you’ll be ready, and you won’t have to deal with Ms. Flake ever again. When you’re a guy with an abundant mindset, you don’t have to play little baby games with little baby women!