How many times have you been in a relationship that seems to be going really well? The sex is good. He’s very attentive. And then an innocent conversation turns into something that absolutely blows you away. One day you decide to ask him about his sexual fantasies. You ask him because you want to spice things up in the bedroom. What you weren’t expecting is his impromptu decision that this is the time to ask for a threesome.  

How do you react?

Well first off, the guy hasn’t read any of my stuff because he should know a threesome has to be initiated by the woman. And you’re engaged in a threesome it’s really all about your pleasure, and not the pleasure of the other guys or woman you’re with.

The first thing you need to do is relax.

Take a deep breath, look at him, and say “Tell me a little bit about your threesome and how you’d like it to go down.”

If he talks about you and one of your friends, and he talks about him having sex with both of you he’s basically telling you he’d like to sleep with your friend. If he looks at you and says “Well, tell me, have you ever wanted a threesome?”

Answer him honestly. If he asks you about your fantasies then he’s making it all about you. If that’s the case he’s obviously a guy that’s curious about having two women together, and would like to see you with another woman. It’s not necessarily him having sex with another woman; he’d like to see you get pleasured by her.

It’s about trying to find out what he wants from the threesome. Expose him and uncover what he really desires. Does he want to see you and another woman having full intercourse? Does he want to see you both dressed up as kinky little nurses frolicking around the bedroom? Or is it something else?

Once again, if he makes the threesome all about you, he wants to know what two women are like together and wants you to enjoy the experience. It’s something most guys are curious about.  If he talks about banging your good friend in front of you, he’s telling you he’s really not the “relationship material” you thought. He’s telling you he still wants to sleep with other women, and in that case you need to make a decision whether the threesome becomes a twosome.

The only difference is it’ll be you and your friend going off to find a better guy!