As Seen on VH1

First, I want to offer a big congratulations to Mystery on his new show. Any time someone in my industry gets a great gig, it’s a good thing for all of us.

A lot of people over the years have thought that only losers get coached by dating guys. The more mainstream my industry becomes, however, the more people realize that it’s winners who actually go for dating advice and coaching.

So congrats to Mystery on your show, and thanks for bringing the industry more into the public eye! BUT . . . as you all know, I’m not a big fan of Mystery’s manipulation techniques.

If you saw the show, Mystery and his fellow pick-up artists were dressed in circus clothes. Mystery wore a giant hat and something that looked like what a Spanish Matador would have worn in the 17th century. His two henchmen were also dressed in clothes that I would not wear in the heat of an Austin summer night. One was dressed all in black with a leather jacket, which is actually a cool look except in the summer time. The other one had multi-colored hair, which will quickly get your attention all the time.

Bottom line: All three guys were doing what Mystery calls “peacocking.” When you peacock and walk into a club where everyone else is dressed normally, you will get a ton of attention. You will become the freak that women may want to sleep with that night.

Here’s the issue that I have with this. With Mystery’s secret seductions becoming mainstream, you’re going to start to see guys with black nail polish and funky Spanish Matador clothing walking into nightclubs all over the country. If you are one of these guys, every woman is going to know that you were once a geek who is now wearing outrageous clothes in order to become a pick-up artist.

The title of Mystery’s show is “The Pick Up Artist.” An adult male should not be proud that he’s a pick-up artist.

Men who are really good with women and who respect women don’t call themselves pick-up artists. Throughout time, powerful men like Don Juan and self-proclaimed ladies man George Clooney never called themselves anything as cheesy as a “pick-up artist.” The term is juvenile.

A forty year-old man should not be proud that he’s learning to be a pick-up artist. If you go to any nightclub in Los Angeles on a Friday night, you’ll see a ton of Mystery-like clothes walking around with black nail polish and funky costumes from Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey Circus.

You will also see men who have learned the approach that I teach. Instead of chasing drunken bimbos, these men are connecting with hot, sexy, beautiful women with a brain.

There’s a certain type of woman who will be attracted to a man with a fedora and a matador’s costume. Once you are exposed as a pick-up artist, however, a woman will have no interest in being with you.

It’s fun to be a pick-up artist in high school and college. It was fun when we were young. If you’re over the age of 22, though, you really need to join the adult’s life.

I just don’t think it’s cool to call yourself a nickname in order to get laid. When I was in high school and grammar school, we used to call each other by great little nicknames. But as an adult, don’t you want people to know who you are? Isn’t it time you developed your own identity not a secret identity?

If your name is Judd Thompson, wouldn’t you rather be known as Judd Thompson the man who all women desire and respect, the man who understands how to connect with women on all levels, and the man who when women sleep with you they don’t look at you like the one-time freak show with whom they’ve always wanted to have sex? Or would you want to be known as Judd Thompson, aka Darth Vader the pick-up artist and sleazy guy who canvasses bars running game on women every night?

No authentic communication can ever occur between you and any woman until you’re being 100% honest and real about who you are. I have found that most people who want to be pick-up artists are trying to prove to all their friends that they’re no longer a geek. You have nothing to prove to your friends. The only person you need to prove things to is yourself.

I’m not saying getting laid on a Friday night at a bar is not fun. I just go about teaching it in an authentic way. So when a woman decides that night to sleep with you, she won’t regret it in the morning.

Ask any woman here on this blog this question: Ladies – When you sleep with a man with whom you have an authentic connection (whether it’s a one-night stand or a fling), don’t you feel better than if some guy ran game on you and then when you wake up the next morning and realize that this powerful, mysterious man dressed in matador clothing is actually just a scared little boy?

Thank you Mystery for exposing the sleazy side of the business. Now people will realize that they have a choice. Oh and if any of these so called Pick Up Masters want a real challenge call me.

I ll show them how to connect at a higher level with real women!!