What can I do to make you happy?

What I’m about to tell you is a mantra that all of you need to use every day in all of your relationships.

It’s going to take dropping your ego.

It’s going to take dropping the “what about me” narcissistic behavior that many of us have.

It’s going to take you not worrying about what you’re going to get.

Everyday I want you to wake up and I want you to say, what can I do to make you happy today?

I want you to do this in every relationship you have.

If it’s a love relationship, I want you to look at your partner in the morning and say:

How can I make you happy today?

Imagine if someone said that to you. Imagine if you were with somebody and they woke up in the morning and said, “Good morning, honey. How can I make you happy today?”

How would you feel?

I want you to feel that right now.

It feels amazing just writing it down. Makes me absolutely feel great.

How can I make you happy today?

That is a beautiful, selfless act.

If you wake up every single morning and look at your partner and say, how can I make you happy today, your partner is going to tell you a few things that will make them happy. They are usually simple, easy things.

And that’s how our love language is fulfilled.

The problem is, a lot of times we wake up in the morning and we wake up in controversy.

We wake up angry.

We wake up not feeling good about the relationship, so in turn, we wake up with the energy of:

How can I drive you crazy today?

How can I trip your life today?

How can I cause conflict in this relationship today?

How can I get what I want today?

And that’s wrong. It’s destructive.

You need to wake up every single morning and look at your relationship as something you can serve every day.

When you serve a relationship and love the person in the relationship, you get through the issues and problems right away.

Aggravation is caused because we are constantly looking at what we’re not getting.

You can use this same mantra with your boss at work.

You can use this same mantra with your employees, if you’ve got people who work for you. happy-man

You can use this same mantra with your business.

You can wake up in the morning and say:

How can I make you happy today?

It’s a beautiful, selfless thing and it’s a way of living life with an open heart.

I recently met somebody who told me she had an awesome relationship with her ex, for one reason and one reason only.

She woke up every day thinking of ways that she could serve him.

That, to me, is beautiful.

You may say “then why is she not with him any more?”

The man was selfish. The man wasn’t willing to give back. It’s amazing, but that is all we need to do.

How can I make you happy today?

What a beautiful way to live. You could say it to your children. Your children can learn from you. Your children can learn to wake up and say, “Hi mom, Hi dad, how can I make you happy today?”

I know it sounds crazy. But I just gave you the solution to having an amazing relationship.

How can I make you, my reader, happy today? Well, I just gave you something beautiful to read.

For those of you who are parents, this is what we do with our kids every day. We all know they can drive us nuts, but we see past that and we love them with our whole hearts.

Our partners will drive us nuts as well, but appreciation is far better than ripping them apart.

How can you make them happy today?

About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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Zannet

Tuesday, December 1st, 2015

Here are five of the lessons I learned in my search for wisdom about what a man should be in a relationship: Lesson # 1: Taking responsibility We learn from Adam. Do not do things that we know are wrong and then blame others. If you make a mistake, take responsibility for our actions. One meaning of the word "husband" is someone who skillfully manages his household. A manager takes responsibility. As the experience of Adam, there is little sympathy for a man who blames a woman for something that has been bad. Often he still has the responsibility. People asked him, "Why did you let?". A man has to look at yourself and see how you can change your own actions to properly handle similar situations. Lesson # 2: Show leadership If a man wants to be seen as valuable and have a good relationship with a woman, he has to show leadership. When he sees a situation that needs to be solved, he should step forward and handle it. People admire those who step forward to deal with difficult situations. No we admire those who stand back and wait for others to solve the problem. Some men evade take over because they do not want to be criticized. They think they are playing safely. A man should say, "I'll manage," and take the initiative to find a solution. If you are not sure what the solution is, do what other leaders do - consult information sources that are available. Lesson # 3: Make decisions One meaning of the word "manly" is being decisive. A man has to make decisions and take responsibility for results. If you are reluctant to make decisions, she can suffer. Part of making decisions is to understand the vision of the other person and be flexible. She does not want someone to control, but does not want someone to stop her making every decision. A man who is afraid of making a wrong decision should ask himself: Who should decide? - Someone who is not afraid to make mistakes. Lesson # 4: Be strong The Talmud asks: Who is strong? He who controls his passions (Ethics of the Fathers, 4: 1). Someone who can control his anger is better than a physically strong man who can conquer a city. Exploding with anger can seriously damage a relationship. If a man thinks he can not control his anger, he should imagine that you are angry with someone, the phone rings and your boss. Are you calm down? Course or lose his job. No angry does not mean accepting ill-treatment; he calmly sets limits on accepting treatment of others. Lesson # 5: Being male Being masculine does not mean being male. Mainly are the positive qualities of decision convictions own strength, confidence, self-assurance, high moral qualities, self-discipline, honesty and integrity. A masculine man has courage to deal with the difficulties, pain or danger without stepping aside despite the fear. Women: their husbands ask him to read it. To men: If after years of watching Homer Simpson, had not read these ideas before, ask your wife if this is what she wants. You may be surprised by their response.

Victor H Alegria

Monday, December 14th, 2015

I love this. This is beautiful. I feel so happy actually. =) You are amazing Mr. Wygant. This needs to be apart of my life.

David

Hi Guys, i tried this with no success. I asked my girlfriend what can i do to make her happy today and she looked at me and said "what? what are you talking about? did you get that from internet? that question makes me feel uncomfortable. What do you think about her reaction?

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