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And from a girl (mature woman) reading the guy blog...
For God's sake! Yes, just ask for the number! You'd be amazed how many times that woman walks away from you wondering why you never asked for her number or why there seemed to be an attraction but you didn't "make a move". You don't need an excuse. Another line is "I really enjoy talking to you, give me your number so we can do it again".
Or if you really can't get up the nerve to be authoritative - then do something a little more casual like... "this has been great, we should do it again sometime". If she agrees, GET THE NUMBER!
And one thing I have found since recently taking up online dating and meeting a few guys - women do appreciate a man who can take charge. As they say, "a guy who has some balls". Be confident, don't say "would you like to go out sometime?", say "Hey, how about we meet for a coffee at xxx". Make decisions. Make suggestions. Us girls love that :)
Straight forward, solid and simple advice. Helps anyone that tends to over think, rationalize too much.
"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"- Wayne Gretzky
You know what is so funny about this.. It's so simple.. Yet, it's my biggest hang up.
"Give me your number, I want to get together", is so simple, yet is so difficult for me, and it appears, the 99% of other guys who have confidence problems with women. I can't count the number of times I have talked to women, had a fun conversation, and left empty handed because I couldn't get up the nerve to say those FOUR SIMPLE WORDS.... "Give me your number."
When you get in your head, and start thinking about what you will feel like if you don't get the response you want.."what if she says.."eww, why?", or "umm.. I have a boyfriend".. Or even worse, "umm.. I don't HAVE a phone.", then it becomes so difficult to spit out those four simple words.
I guess the best thing to do is just say to yourself.. "Fuck it. I'll probably never see her again anyway.. Just do it." and don't care about the outcome.
"Give me your number" .. So simple, yet so difficult.
Yeah I have trouble closing quickly - asking for a number after meeting someone once just does not seem natural at all. And personally I'd be hesitant about giving some stranger I just met MY number.
An easy workaround is I get familiar and comfortable in a few places where I often see the same people again. That takes the pressure off of closing on the first encounter because I will likely see that person again at the same place some other time. Then again it's kind of a cop out on my part.
The key for me though is to have a REASON to ask for her contact info. Like I want to show her a venue she was talking about, or put her on the invite list for a game party, or swap some great injury stories with her, or find out more about her watchamacallit collection she mentioned, etc.
John,
I don't think that "give me your number, I want to get together" would work for some men.
A softer approach might work better with other women - mentioning that you really enjoyed talking with them and you would like to do it again soon. If she smiles - next best thing is to jump in there and ask for the date.
Oh the anxiety of walking over to someone that you've fancied for eons and asking them for a date.....bloody hard to do!!
I wasn't going to let any comment in here, but this video is really funny. I just can believe people ask you over and over again how to get a phone number, when obvious the simplest thing to do is to ask it to the person you want to talk/get/hang to.
If you guys remember, is like in faculty, the first step to take an exam is to show up in the class when the exam is scheduled. No matter if you studied or not, you might have a surprise. But you definitely won't pass that exam if you won't show up. Same thing applies here.
I can't help myself saying David looks really hot and exciting when he gets mad and his voice is loud.
The ones who watch this should feel intimidated and ask her the number!!!
Ha ha
Expected ,mundane, advice. Nothing special. I knew the story before he even posted it. Just ask... The trick is to get to the point of getting a positive response to your question...That is the hard part, and the part that needs all the coaching, study, and preperation...Getting to the point where she GIVES you the number!
Good, now that David has covered the basic "Give me your number" it'd be great for him to build on that advice & your feedback to add a series of videos that cover the difficult portion of getting a positive response.
Bob, you seem to have no problem getting women. What do you say to them, how do you get them to give you their number, and how do you pique their interest ?
My "cowboy/country" technique would not work for you, or anyone else on here. I am unique in my approach, and it is totally off the wall, and different from what they are used to. It either works or it totally bombs. I usually just get a weird look from the bombs, and always say something like, Hmmmm. Must be a foreigner. Don't speak english... as they are walking away. I noticed Davis uses the same type humor in his bombs, saying his gramma just committed suicide, have a good day, and such.
You've hit upon a key point, Bob. Personal style is key! You know you've figured things out when you have your own, unique, individual take on what you want out of a relationship and what your approach / game is. I think if you ask 100 people what they want out of relationships and what their approach is, you should get 100 different answers if they have really figured it out.
Me, I'm blunt and direct, playful, and WAY outside of the box. So naturally I REALLY like Wygant's style and want to make it my own. I also naturally use props and get physical - that's my main game. Meeting a competitive athlete and challenging her to a standing long jump competition in the middle of a party, going 'check it out - i can touch my toes' when i meet a yoga chick, finding excuses to start juggling or throwing and catching random things, etc.
A unique thing I do is finding ways to flaunt my brainpower in a playful nonabrasive manner though. The one surefire trick I have so far is to find unusually interesting adjectives with which to label her ;). Like if she laughs at something that happened to me I can go "hey, why are you so schadenfroh?!"
Bob, that's a great line in response to a bomb.
Tried some quick searches about Davis with no success, bummer.
With that said, the energy and off the wall style makes me think of Sasha daygame approaches.
Al E Neuman, the problem with Sasha daygame from the one video I have seen of him, is that he's is only interested in getting the number and hooking up.
He appears to have no interest in getting to know the woman for who she is, and has no intention of wanting to create a relationship.
That's why although he gets numbers, I can almost guarantee that he gets very few women responding to his calls or texts, and I wouldn't be surprised if some of the women give him the wrong number.
Otherwise, he would be in a relationship and not chasing women.
There is only one Man who Will make you completely fulfilled, and that Man is Jesus. I promise that if you seek him and let him into your heart you will experience rest and Everlasting Joy. I pray that you will take this message to heart and experience TRUE Happiness in Jesus. God Bless. ps. Pray to Jesus about all of your problems so that he will help you like he has helped me always.
Jesus does not give specific actionable advice like keeping an observation journal, writing down your deal breakers, conversing like women do, using a voice recorder to create stories about yourself and improve your voice tone, etc, etc. Wygant does.
Plus me personally, I insist on a woman who is sane enough not to believe that she was created from the rib of a man or that sex is the root of all evil, for starters. But I am getting off topic - this has nothing to do with Jesus anymore.
Keeping an observation journal has gotten me to get some contact info without even asking for it - entirely by accident. Thanks, David :)
I naturally like to have fun and be goofy and use props, so I've pulled out my journal to draw a diagram illustrating a point I am making, or to write down an interesting quote someone just made, or to note a movie or website or place someone mentioned, etc. Then someone shoots me a weird look or gets curious about my notebook so I start talking about it and pulling out some entries. Then they sometimes want to compete to get their name + contact info in my journal too for some reason. More than once or twice she'd just ask for my pen and scribble herself into it without even asking for permission first :)
Hey, I'm just dabbling around in linguistics and I stumbled onto why this works.
Most of the time in polite conversation and social situations we speak indirectly without even realizing it. "i'm busy" implies "no, i will not go to your party". "Do you have the time" implies "give me the time of day". "can i have your number" or "i want to have your number" implies "give me your number". All of these statements are so easy to figure out we don't even realize they are indirect, but they are. We rarely use statements that mean EXACTLY what we say.
And when we do speak directly, it's usually in a business situation to command authority, not to be seen as pleasant and cooperative. So 'give me your number' is the direct, authoritative, take-charge way to ask for a number, everything else is playing nice.
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