Dear David,

I met this guy for coffee about 10 days ago. We met on match.com and went out after two telephone calls. I had a great time. During the date, he told me that he felt something between us.

He gave me several hugs throughout the evening and complimented me on how I looked. He was very up front and said that he is looking for a wife and could marry in three months.

However, there was no mention of meeting again at the end of the date. Like a love-struck schoolgirl, I told him to ‘call me’ and he said, “Well you can call me, too.” This is after he hugged me again and planted a light kiss on my lips.

I haven’t heard from him since. I’m thinking that he’s just not that interested in me. And that bums me out.

I sent him an e-mail three days later and told him I enjoyed our espresso at Starbucks and I felt very comfortable and just found him entertaining. I felt something between us, too. More hugs, please.  I actually wrote that.

Now it’s been a week and still nothing.  What gives?

. . .

Here’s what I think: I don’t even know who this guy is.  I’m never met him.  I don’t know how he behaves.  I have no idea what his morals are.  I have no idea what he’s like.

And any man that is looking for a wife and could marry in three months is a complete idiot.

Really, Guy, you’re going to go find a wife in three months?  Here you are, an adult, and you haven’t found her yet. But now you’re going to go find your wife and get married in three months?!

This is what I think about this man: an idiot, a loser, and a complete jerk.

Really, finding a wife in three months?  Why doesn’t he go to the Philippines or somewhere and stick some postage on someone and FedEx the woman back? That’s probably the quickest way for a man to find a wife in three months.

I have no idea why he didn’t call you back.  Nobody does except for him.  But if a man doesn’t call you, if a man doesn’t want to be with you, if a man doesn’t follow up then you know what?  He’s not into you.

So forget about him. Go out and be sexy and exuberant and playful and you will find the right man for you.

I guarantee it.