Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match, OKCupid, whatever your choice is, if you don’t use these apps or sites right, they become black holes.

Swipe right for love.

Girls choose first.

Swipe one of these people and they have matched with you.

Dating has become a swipe right world.

We’re not even reading profiles anymore. That’s not true. A lot of us are still on dating sites and reading profiles.

But a lot of us have been trying Tinder.

Bumble.

Hinge.

I’ve got to tell you, app dating is here to stay and it is definitely a challenge.

I look at it as a black hole that constantly has people poking their head out.

Pick me. Look at me. Text me. Connect with me.

People put their best pictures up, and hope.

They’re writing very few words on their profile. Basically none.

If you get an interesting text from somebody, you go into this texting vortex that usually leads nowhere.

In all that time you always miss a great connection that you didn’t pick. Here’s the deal with Tinder and all the other apps, they become a black hole if you let them become a black hole.tinder

Instead of giving your phone number up too quickly, you should really have a good text conversation for as long as you possibly can. Maybe for a day or two to see if somebody can keep up with your wit. Ask a few key questions.

Don’t just write on your profile, no hookups. Because that’s not going to prevent the idiots from passing through the cracks.

What you need to do is find somebody who’s got exactly what you’re looking for.

I know a text conversation is not exactly a real conversation. But you can tell if somebody’s got high energy. Low energy. If they’re boring.

All via texting.

It’s a matter of ramping up your text game.

Not only that, when it comes to Tinder, you should set up a five minute phone date. That’s right. Instead of going to see somebody in person that you may or may not be attracted to, because in reality, no matter if you both swiped right, chemistry is all about face to face meeting.

What I would suggest is for you to get on the phone and tell them “hey look, I’d love to meet you but I’d love to see you first. As we both know, we’ve both been on many coffee dates where you meet and don’t feel any chemistry. Why don’t we just get on Skype or Facetime and see what happens?”

It’s a great idea because it enables you to see somebody, to feel their energy and see if it’s somebody you’re actually interested in meeting face to face.

You’ll be able to weed through more people.

Think about it. You could make your Sunday night your Bumble Sunday, Hinge Sunday, or OkCupid Sunday. If you actually get on the phone and have a few five-minute conversations with all of your suitors, you’ll be able to feel out the person that interests you the most.

You’ll be able to find the connection that suits you the best.

Think about this the next time you’re swiping for dates, and check out today’s video for some great tips on why Tinder is a dating black hole and how to negotiate your way through it.