I want you for a moment to imagine what it’s like to be a woman.

Alright, not the sexual side of a woman.

Don’t imagine lying in bed having multiple orgasms all day long.

I’m talking about what it feels like to be a woman actually walking down the street.

As you leave your house in the morning there’s always a guy that’s going to stare at you, make a comment, whistle at you, whatever it might be.

Then as you get in the elevator there’s going to be some shy guy in the corner of the elevator that’s just going to stare you down and not say a word.

When you go out to lunch with your friends, you’re going to have guys that will look at you and not say anything.

You go to the gym at night and you put your headphones on.  Why?  Because you don’t want to deal with the guys that are not going to talk to you or say anything.

And then maybe over the course of the day—at least one time—some guy is going to come over and say something really stupid and not own his words and do it in a non-confident way.

At night you’re going to be home and you’re going to want to give up on men, because you’re going to just feel like men just don’t react, men don’t understand you and men don’t come over and say anything interesting or intelligent.

Imagine being a woman, how that feels to be looked at and not talked to, stared at by a group of drunken guys at a bar and not spoken to, whistled at by a bunch of construction workers on the side of the road with no legit interaction in sight.

Kind of makes you feel like an animal that’s being preyed by hunters, almost like a deer in the Pennsylvania woods being hunted by a bunch of men with super powered rifles.

You don’t have a chance to feel comfortable.

So guys, now you know why it is that when you go and talk to a woman and hesitate, or not own your words, or you say something while nervous about it, she basically looks at her friend, shakes her head and is wondering what the hell you’re talking about.

Here’s the deal: Look, observe, feel, and use your awareness in order to talk to her.

Don’t just say, “That’s a nice scarf, it looks good on you.”

You need to say, “Wow, as you were walking by I noticed that scarf, it’s really cool, it’s beautiful, you rock it.”

Say something that actually sounds authentic and real, because that’s what you really thought.  The quicker you communicate, the quicker you’re going to be able to get her interested.

If you don’t speak quickly, guess what happens: you repel her, you scare the hell out of her, and then she doesn’t want to talk to you ever again.  You’ve done what every other guy has done.

To understand about how to do the opposite, you need to learn how to be the opposite of the way you are right now.

Be the opposite of the way most guys are and you suddenly separate yourself––you make yourself unique.

And women everywhere are dying to meet an charming, confident, unique man.

So really think about how she feels––do yourselves both a favor and become a new man.