This is a great topic, but one of the “risky” ones. I was watching the Biggest Loser the other night and was thinking.

Let’s say you’re dating someone and they they start putting on some weight. It doesn’t matter if it’s the man or the woman. If this is happening, how to do you bring it to their attention?

Well, first, if you’re putting on weight too then there is no reason to bring it up. The two of you can gain weight together.

If you’re somebody who works out a lot and you notice that your partner is gaining weight, though, then there is an easy way to bring up the issue with them. You work out with them!

Don’t tell them that they’re gaining weight or criticize them. Don’t say, “You’re gaining weight. What’s going on?”

What you need to do is work out with them. Make it fun. Say something like, “Hey, let’s go for a run today” or “Let’s go for a hike today” or “Let’s play some volleyball on the beach today.”

You can tell that I live in Southern California. If you don’t live near the beach, you can say something as simple as, “Let’s go for a walk.”

Start engaging them in physical activity or even having sex five times a day. Both of you will lose weight.

It doesn’t matter what activity you choose. The bottom line is that if your partner has gained weight, then the only way to get them to lose weight is to exercise with them.

You really don’t want to tell them that they have gained weight. They probably are already well aware of it.

If you make exercise fun and do it together — whether you join a gym or do something else — then guess what happens? They will start to feel great about their body again, and they are going to enjoy exercise. Before you know it, they will take off that extra weight.