The Quantity Of Dating

Men's Advice Dating Tips, Uncategorized

By David Wygant April 8, 2010 165 Shares

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Some people are all about the quantity of dating. It’s not, however, about how many people you date.

To some people spring and summer are “dating season.” They think, “I can’t wait to go out on eight to ten dates this spring. I love spring dates!”

Why? Are they any different from wintertime dates? Are you going to skip through a park with your dates instead of sliding your ass across an ice rink?

It’s not the number of dates you go on that matters. Truthfully, going on lots of dates does not necessarily mean someone is a successful dater.

What makes you a successful dater is something else entirely. If you want to know what that is, then you had better listen (and listen carefully) to today’s podcast.

The information I give you in this podcast will change the way you perceive dating for the remainder of this so-called spring/summer dating season.

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Nowadays, dating is more competitive than it’s ever been — download this free report to learn 6 proven skills to stand apart & succeed in the modern dating world.

About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.

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Carter

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Really inspirational, David. The catch, learn, do point makes a lot of sense. You see a lot of people do the same thing when they start a work out program. They get all pumped up and motivated at first, they overdo it, get frustrated when they don't get results as quickly as they like, and then quit. You can't really blame them though. Our society is so infatuated with the quick fix and instant gratification. Advertisers promise that their products and gadgets provide instant results with little or no effort on the users part. While the small print says results not typical, users also maintained a healthy diet and additional workout program. Our culture is also one of supersizing, quality over quantity. Your approach of small improvements, and building a structure is right on. People tend to focus too much on instant gratification, and that's why people give up too easy and settle, instead of striving towards something better. It requires conscious effort to focus on the right goals.

F

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

This podcast reminds me of the multitasking blog David wrote a while ago. I like to take things one step at a time. Great podcast.

tranquilitress

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Thank you! Great advice!

Rick

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Thanks David! That podcast was mind blowing.

Rick

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Forgot to mention, also my thanks goes to Coach T.K.

Tracy

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Very well said we are in a society we want something great to happen without taking it one step at a time.

Clint

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

David- just listening to your voice motivates the hell out of me. I have noticed sometimes I get too goal oriented so I need to just cool off and just focus on the little things.

yours howe

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Clint-- I don't thiink its only you. I'm going through this at least once a week. I get so in my damn head. I see what David is saying, i think its very important to have a real expectations.

Mike

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

I've always been a background reader of the blog. Just wanted to say hello to everyone and share my thoughts with you all. One of the biggest thing that helped me relax a lot is thinking about abundance. There are so many women than we all have the time to meet.

Joseph

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Variety is the spice of life! TK said not to focus on getting dates, and i think thats very imporatant. When u think only about dating and thats it, you are in your head most of the time and u get that monkey chatter taking over ur life. Ur not gonna find a date everyday so if ur looking for something thats not there, ur not staying present. Sports are the same way. Alex ovechkin scores almost every game, but everytime he steps on the ice hes thinking about what he has to do each and every shift, not at the game as a whole. Davids a football guy. Drew Brees, Peyton Manning; they focus on the task at hand; one play at a time. Thanks dave, u got me thinking

Jimmy

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

I just noticed I could download this. I love it. Yesterdays blog looks like everyone wanted the podcast really bad.

Coach Jacob

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Jimmy What did you love about today's podcast?

Coach Jacob

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

F That's what I'm mastering now, one step at a time. It helps a lot to get quality results. How long have you been practicing this one step at a time way of doing things?

Coach Jacob

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Howe You focus on the number or the end result way too much. Am I right or what? I find that slowing down and not thinking about the future helps a lot.

anonymous

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Like you said its not about the quantities but the quality of the connection you have with her!

Jimmy

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Jacob: What I learned the most was that slowing down and taking one step at a time. Too often we force things to other people and our self. Thanks.

yours howe

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

CJ You are on money on that one. I really have to improve my focus and slow down. Sometimes its hard when I'm around a really hot girl. Recently met a new girl so I want make things workout between us.

DON

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

number 1 rule: run after excellence and success will you.

DON

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

number 1 rule: run after excellence and success will follow you.

Coach Kimberly

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Thanks Rick! More to come!

Coach Kimberly

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Tracy-- I so agree. In fact that is why so many people go from relationship to relationship, date to date as they are always looking for the next best thing or something greater. Do you think women are the same as men in this area?

Collin

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

I swear you read my mind David. I was at a friend's birthday party tonight and somehow we got on on the subject of sharing our "crushes" with each other. I thought long and hard about it, and I really couldn't think of any. I've pretty much gone through all the girls I initially had a "crush" on and didn't really click with any of them. I need to get out and meet new people. This is good motivation to do just that.

Dean

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Great motivation / inspiration (as always)!

F

Friday, April 9th, 2010

Coach Jacob, I have been practicing this method for a while now. Often times I would multitask, but now I really focus on getting one thing done at a time. To me quality of something, a skill, is more important then the quantity. I have gone from the guy who didn't know how to approach women, because of internal fears, which are all illusion by the way, to the guy who can approach so much women, that I can't really focus on who I want to date or get to know better....because of so many options..lol Well, back to the one step at a time strategy:)

john

Friday, April 9th, 2010

I really wish someone would post an article about what to do if you are really ugly. Considering I havent had ANY woman show interest in me in about 11 years, no matter WHAT I did, 1 date, 1 time would be a HUGE improvement, I think 8 to 10 would be a really unrealistic goal for someone who is short, overweight, ugly, and closing in on 40 years old, like me.

john

Friday, April 9th, 2010

ok, I APOLOGIZE. I haven't yet read "try this approach" which is geared toward people who aren't perfect looking, and now I'm sure there are others, if I look harder,, so,,, SORRY.

Collin

Friday, April 9th, 2010

John, I guarantee you what you'll find is that your looks count far less than you could possibly imagine. Confidence and humor can more than make up for a lack of looks.

Bob

Friday, April 9th, 2010

How many of you guys really had a goal of 8 or more dates a month? I find this impossible to believe that anyone in their right mind would expect such a thing. Where did you get this assumption, David? I think most of us are just looking for one good partner to fullfill each others needs and wants...At least, I certainly hope so.

Wygant Fan

Friday, April 9th, 2010

I had an awesome lunch date last Friday afternoon. Perfect weather. Good conversation. I tried to stay in the moment as much as possible.

Wygant Fan

Friday, April 9th, 2010

Yeah Bob, 8 dates a month sounds kinda high. A goal of 4 or 5 a month sounds more reasonable. Like one a month or something. And shoot for a variety of dates maybe. Like coffee, or lunch or working out, or dinner/movie. Then you can see what you are best at.

Collin

Saturday, April 10th, 2010

4, 5, 8, 9. Even 1 is still playing a numbers game. If I meet a girl worth getting to know better, then I'm gonna do just that. Maybe there's 15 in a month. Maybe I have a dry month. It doesn't matter because we should be looking for someone who will make us happy, not someone to complete a number goal we had in our heads.

Ken

Monday, April 12th, 2010

I knew a guy who would brag about being out on over 20 dates in just three months and while other people were congratulating him, all I could think is that he must not have a life or value his time if he can go on 20 dates. Much less, those dates couldn't have gone well because if they did, he wouldn't have time to keep trying out that many additional women. Quality over quantity any day.

Charles

Tuesday, April 13th, 2010

Wow great podcast. I think small imperfections can be overlooked with good humor and personality.

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