I’m going to share something interesting that happened to me recently.

It was a rainy day in Los Angeles, which to me is an absolute treat because it never really happens.

The only thing consistent about Los Angeles is the nightmare traffic that you go through just to get home.

I used to live in Brentwood for a long time. Now, I go workout there, meet my trainer there. Brentwood is the place where I really met lots of women. It was the Brentwood Whole Foods that all of you love to make fun of me about, Mr. Whole Foods.

But it’s where I started the business.

Back in 1999, I probably dated, no kidding, about 200 women that I met at the Whole Foods in Brentwood. It was one of the best places to meet women. It was always my ritual to go there, to flirt, to connect, to have fun. I never thought about it, I would just do it.

So, the other day when I was back there, I was on the phone before I went into Whole Foods.

And when I walked in there, I started flirting. I had no intention of flirting. Between you and me, usually when I go and run errands, I just run errands, say hello to some people and that’s about it. I’m not really in the mode right now to go and meet lots of people.

Psychologically Triggered

psychology behind meeting womenI walked into Whole Foods and I started flirting with this woman over by the flowers. I was picking up some flowers for my daughter.

And then it just continued. I just kept chatting people up and talking. And it was interesting. I didn’t leave with any phone numbers. I’m not going out on any dates or anything because it’s not about that at all for me right now.

But I realized something and I want to call it the psychological trigger points of training your brain. You see, most of you go out, and you go out to places where you haven’t been super successful.

So in your subconscious programming, when you get there, you’re thinking, without realizing it, that this is not a great place for you to meet people.

So when you go there, especially when you go to a bar on a Friday night or you go to a night club or you go to places where you’ve seen women but haven’t been successful, you are playing out the same subconscious programming you’ve played out time and time again. Instinctively, you think to yourself that you’re going to get rejected.

No matter how much you’ve talked it up. No matter how much you have planned out the night. No matter how much you’ve decided that tonight was going to be different or you studied ways of communicating. It seems to always play out the same every single time.

Do you want to know why? Because there’s a psychological subconscious programming that’s going on inside your brain.

I walked into Whole Foods with no intention at all of flirting with women. I went there to go pick up some supplies for the weekend.

But, the minute I walked in there, my psychological triggers triggered without even realizing it. My subconscious mind started doing things to me which made me go into the mode that I used to go into every time I walked in there.

Every time I used to walk into Whole Foods, I would always go and meet women. And my success rate in there was ridiculous. It was the place where I met most of my dates.

So I went in there and I started doing what I always did in there even though I was not in that social mode.

My hair was a mess. I was wearing my gym clothes. I wasn’t feeling it at all, but the second I walked in there, I saw a woman looking at flowers and, immediately, I started talking to her like I should talk to her because my sub-conscious mind was doing exactly what I trained it to do for so long over a period of time.

The Adrenaline Rush of Flirting

By the time I left, I had that same adrenaline rush because I am a flirt, and I enjoy flirting; I find it a lot of fun. My friend, Brett, always tells me that it’s my sport. My sport is flirting with women, and I’m good at it so I enjoy it.

But in goes deeper than that. I trained my brain so much, my mind so much, that when I go into a place, it triggers it. My subconscious mind takes over and, immediately, I start flirting with everybody and anyone that walks by. I changed my entire persona just based on how I’m being triggered from a subconscious psychological view to follow this even more.

Your mind needs to be trained differently, and I’ve told guys that. Whenever I do a bootcamp, I’m training your sub-conscious mind, so you’re able to go and change your results, but unless you do something over and over again and start showing your subconscious mind that you actually have success from it, you create a lot of fear based around it which means you’re not going to do it.

This is no different than when you walk in and you pick up the same box of pasta every single time. You do it without even thinking about it even though there are other boxes of pasta. You’re reaching for the same one over and over again because of your subconscious programming, the primal subconscious programming that you’re going through.

You do it when you order things. You do it when you buy things. You do it when you reach for anything because your brain has been subconsciously programmed by messages that it’s received over and over and over again.

Your brain has been conditioned. Conditioned by advertising, conditioned by everything to buy the same thing over and over again even though there are better brands.

And that’s what it really comes down to.

Unless you’re going to make a conscious choice to change your results, nothing is ever going to change for you at all.

Change the Psychology of Meeting Woman

If you’re not going to go out there and pick one place where you can be successful, where you can meet women, nothing will ever change.

Pick a place. Work on it. Go there for a few days.

So, you’ve conditioned your mind for success. No different than a well-trained athlete.

An athlete who goes and practices over and over again, and starts perfecting certain throws, better than others.

There are certain quarterbacks that can throw better than other quarterbacks. There are certain basketball players that can make jump shots better than other ones.

The reason is that they’ve conditioned themselves. They’ve practiced the same thing over and over, so they have no fear when it’s time to take that shot.

It’s all about being conditioned. It’s the way you go about your job. There are things that you really can do more efficient than any other.

To just build the belief of success, to do something, it can cause pain or feeling.

Most people feel the pain so deeply that they’re not out there and doing the things that they need to do because they’re not willing to take the step step forward, to really start to reprogram that subconscious mind.

So, if you really want to go and meet more women, and if you want to go an improve your social life, you’re going to have to take the step. You’re going to have to take the leap of faith that this will actually work. You’re going to have to go through rejection.

Probably over and over again. You’re going to have to go through failed conversations.

Until you finally perfect it, which by the way, you will perfect it. There’s no doubt in my mind that you’re going to get this right if you do this day in and day out.

It was an amazing thing that happened. Of course, I’m always looking deeper. A lot of you are thinking, damn David, why didn’t you go get the phone numbers of these girls?

It wasn’t about that. It was about understanding a deeper thing that I can share with all of you, so I can give you the opportunity to really understand. That’s how my mind works. My mind goes deeper into so many different things.

So, start reprogramming that subconscious mind of yours.

And start enjoying the process. It’s a fun process when you do this because you realize it’s as simply as reaching for a can of Ragu spaghetti sauce. You can simply reach for a woman and connect with her. It can become that simple for you on so many different levels.