The Power of I am Statements
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Do you want to know how to attract amazing women in your life? Do you want to know how to attract money, wealth, fame, or whatever else you want?
It all starts with a simple statement.
I am.
The power of I am statements.
I was doing a little reflecting the other day, and I realized how many people are seeking validation. What I’m about to share with you is something very personal to me, and it’s something that I don’t talk about very much.
I remember when I first started this business. I had to make a decision on what to concentrate on, men or women, at that time.
I decided to concentrate on teaching men how to meet women first, and I did so because I was seeking validation.
You see, there are times in life when we all get stuck in the moment.
We get stuck in time, suspended animation.
This time for me had to do with my dad and my relationship with my dad.
My father was somebody who I was constantly seeking validation from. It was our dynamic.
Instead of my dad validating me, making me feel great and spectacular and smart, like you should do with your kid, my dad constantly criticized me.
He told me I was bad at meeting girls.
He told me I would never amount to anything.
He told me that I needed to be more like my friend Bill Johnson. You see, I was never enough for my dad. So I sought validation. And how did I do it?
Through money.
Through women.
When I first started coaching, I was getting validation from all of you. I’m talking about back in 1998. I was great with women, so I would love coaching you guys because you’d make me feel like a super hero.
I would show you a picture of a girl I met, talk about a date I had, and you’d sit there and you’d hang onto every single word.
You would validate me.
You would validate everything about me. I was cool. I was unleashing the little boy. I was great at teaching all of you, so my intent was there. But I was also a little selfish because I was trying to be validated at the same time.
I remember those days because it was always about me sleeping with somebody or me going out with this hot girl and getting what I call the virtual high five.
Hey, you’re so cool, man, I wish I could be with a girl like that.
It’s what a lot of men do. A lot of men will use money and women to seek out validation that they never got as a kid.
You see, we’re just playing a loop. We’re looking for this social acceptance, and we play it out, without even realizing how and why we’re doing so.
When a guy tells me he’s been with a girl who’s hot, I say “I couldn’t care less man, as long as you think she’s amazing. You don’t need my validation, you don’t need my acceptance.”
Back in those early days of my career I was really just playing out my childhood, looking for the validation I never got from my father.
I’ve learned a lot of lessons, and I’m sharing this because it was a long time ago now.
I see a lot of guys seeking validation. Using women to validate. Using money to validate.
But I’m telling you, it’s much more powerful to use I am statements.
I’m not going to tell you what to do with these I am statements because today’s video is not only very personal to me, but today’s video will change your life.
It’s going to change the way you look at things, and it’s going to attract a whole different person into your life. I’m talking about a different person from work, to dating, to everything.
It will change the way your kids look at you.
It is one of the most powerful things you can do, and it’s so simple that everybody can do it on a daily basis.
I call it the power of I am statements.
Check it out.
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