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Happy Wednesday, ladies. (Or Hump Day if you’re nasty. ;))
David Wygant here with our weekly Wednesday podcast.
Today, we discuss something that comes up often in my coaching sessions:
The Negotiator vs. The Inner Voice Intuition
This could be one of my favorite podcasts ever, so listen closely!
Do you have internal battles between The Negotiator and the Inner Voice?
Let me know in the comments below!
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About David
1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.
I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.
Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.
What you are basically saying is live for the moment, go with the flow, & don't overthink it, but these are qualities that you "learn to live by",so it can all turn out right.
Good thing women love bad boys because it leaves all of the good guys for ME! :D lol
My mom said, "don't post more than 1 message a day"! I'm like, "I don't!" lol
LOVED THIS!!! I think I needed to hear this. Thanks so much! I'm going out tonight and am just gonna go with how I feel, not what my "negotiator" says.
I didn't want to write anymore b/c I have too many posts already but omg! This is really spooky!! Dating/meeting new people is fascinating!! I used to just get guys that weren't what I was looking for but since I was advised to use the law of attraction, I picked that I want someone with the exact character or personality (or whatever the way a person is is called) that my brother (who was a saint and perfect!) that I lost had and on one of those online dating sites that I'm on (and not using b/c I'm sick of it!) this guy sent me interest and I was like, "omg! This guy resembles my brother that I lost! Like, wow! This is spooky!! This is like what he would have looked like if he had lived and were older right now!!" He looks so much like him!! It's unreal!! And then, I glanced up at his name and his name is exactly the same as my brother that I lost!! OMG!!
My mom was stalking our extended family on facebook (like she always does!) and one of my half sisters is a lesbian and has a very masculine look and my mom was like infatuated with her! Like, "look! She looks just like your dad!" (and she's like looking at her picture all dreamy like she's looking at him!) Creepy!!
I made this online dating profile and I put exactly who I am and then when I looked at it, I thought, "this is the most selfish, self-centered, self-absorbed person!" It made me sick for days afterwards! I had to delete it! It attracted a lot more people than my nothing-fill-it-up-with-whatever profile but they were self-centered, self-absorbed people!! I'm not like that at all but I can't put, "I put my life on hold for years to be with someone that I loved more than anything in the world that had a terminal illness." Not exactly cheerful!
I'm so tired of attracting people who are in the medical profession! My whole entire family tree is doctors!! Waaaa!! They always say, "I am in the medical field because I am such a caring person..." Ummm....no... You're in it because it makes you feel powerful! So I put exactly who I'm looking for on my online dating profile (I hate online dating!) and I described my brother's (who was the best person, ever!) personality and character and it attracted.....people in the medical field. Waaaa... :(
Then I remembered that my brother wanted to be a doctor!
Plastic surgeons are the best, though because they're around all of that stuff that makes you pass out out so they don't remember anything so when you're done, you don't have to pay your bill! :D
Do not EVER tell a doctor that you're doing good! (This is the darkside that you don't want to learn about doctors.) You might as well tell them that they're useless to the world... because that's what they're hearing!
The good news is that they're workaholics so they always have money (and if they don't, they'll go to criminal ways to acquire it!). The bad news is that they never enjoy it. Once you go on a vacation with them, they spend the whole goddamn time working! 50% of the time working is spent on their practice. The other 50% is spent destroying other doctors!
I shouldn't ever say this but since it's just us girls and we're a team and we have to work together to protect ourselves from the bad guys, the best revenge against a player is to say to him, "I don't remember you" and then act clueless as to who he is!
Players would leave me (a blessing from God to get that bad guy away but it is heartbreaking because we have emotions- they don't- so we actually love and care about other people! They're just working their way to future bad things that will come as payback!) probably then go to another girl, then come back to me (cus their low on attention-getting and she got rid of him) and then want to pick things up exactly where they left off with me (after I had a heart-broken, tear-filled month with nonstop sad love loss songs to try to get over him) and I'd be like, "I don't remember you", (and really, I didn't really remember him! Yay!) and then he'd say a bunch of stuff and I'm like, "Uhhhh...don't remember" and he would be fuming!
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I love your new podcast, David!! (that's on the next blog entry) That is the best!! We need you to elaborate, though!! We're still confused! How do we make the other person feel good???
I try to feel out guys but then when I'm trying to get to know them and build a connection they get to a point where they're like, "you're not going to have sex with me right now? Ok bye!" and then they are gone!
It's really rude!
All guys do is say how girls only want guys for their money.
Ohhhhhhh! so you want a girl who can make her own money!
Errrr....didn't think so!
How about a really rich, successful, motivated, ambitious, powerful (it's hurting more with each one isn't it?)
I want my own money so I can buy my own expensive stuff a la Ivanka Trump!
Whenever guys find out that I'm smart, it scares them away! I forget that I have to pretend that I don't know how to read any books, that I don't know smart literature, that I'm not as clever as I am, etc..
I can outsmart any of them! I wish I didn't have to be tested my whole life by mean brothers! who freakin play games! guys play games! THey all say girls play games! NO! guys play games!
ok...girls play games, too! my mom! Ugh! biggest game player! I recently asked her what happens that hormones change as the body ages? Her answer, "when I first got to medical school, they didn't know what caused pregnancy"
WEll then they shouldn't be called the Ivy League! THey should be called the Kindergarten League!
and that was totally unrelated to what I was asking!! Game player!
When I first did online dating, I had no clue about anything and I just put the real me and all I got was guys giving me completely nude pics of themselves!! I swear! Tons! I was still clueless as to what was going on so then eventually I would say to them, "I don't have naked pictures of myself to send you" but they still wanted to send me their pics! I was, "Wow! Ok! THank you!" Mean guys to tease me that way! But wow! Sure enjoyed looking at them! :D
Another word (to add to my other list of words you can't use on your online dating profile) is "openminded"! OMG! Apparently this means, "Bi and looking to try anything and everything sexual at least once"!
I thought it meant I'm tired of people who only want you to think what they want you to think and say what they want you to say but apparently there is no word for this!
It's like, I can't even put that I'm always there for others (in order to find a guy who's always going to be there for me like people I know) because guys just read this as "boring dependable good girl" No excitement or attraction if I know that she's always going to be there for me and not that she might be down at the bar screwing every guy!
If I put that people tell me that I'm witty and that they love my sense of humor, they read this as, "Will I be able to out wit her...no"
If I put that I love to exercise and that I exercise everyday (because I want to find a guy who also likes to do this and doesn't give me hell for it like my family did growing up!) THey just read, "exercises more than me...she's better than me."
I finally met one guy who exercised more than me and was interested in me but he was really effeminate which killed my attraction for him and he was on massive amounts of speed!
ANother guy seemed like the perfect guy and I kept thinking, "how could this guy not be taken up?" but then he started to talk about how he just like to go to his favorite bar and get hammered! I was like, "see ya!"
Everyone says to show your qualities on your online dating profile, not to say them but that turns into every and any misinterpretation! ANything but what it's meant! Even my picture gets seen in who-knows-what guys are seeing! If there's a barrette in my hair, a bunch of guys will send, "I like the flower in your hair". I'm thinking, "flower?" "how are they seeing that as a flower?"
One guy sent, "I had a horrible experience with a red head and told myself after that that I would never date a red head again but I'm going to change that now since you're a red head". I'm like, "I'm a brunette"! How are you seeing red hair in my photo??
Which brings up another point! When I'm a blonde, pretty much every straight guy is interested in me and as a brunette oh maybe a good 2% of guys are interested and all of those are only interested in...in their words, "a dirty, filthy slut".
Whaaaa!!
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