magic openersWith 2013 coming to an end, let me try and put a full-stop on an issue that keeps coming up. No matter how many times I write about this, and no matter how many products I put out about how to approach women, a lot of guys are still looking for that magic opener. Guys still write to me looking for the one thing they can say to get a woman’s attention.

“David, what’s the magic opener all girls react to in every situation?”

Well folks, here it is. There is no magic opener. Every moment in life is different. Every minute in life is unique, and yet it will have already happened before many times. I’ll give you an example of something that happened to me a while back.

I was going for lunch at one of my favorite restaurants. I parked my car, and starting walking. As I got near the building I spotted a woman coming from her car. I could see we were going to cross paths, and I was in the mood to chat people up so I waited for her to catch up.

As she got closer, the first thing I noticed about her that she was wearing winter clothes. So, I looked at her and said, “Wow, you’re really dressed for winter today aren’t you?”

I said it with conviction, and I said it with a smile. I said it as if it was something I’d said a hundred times already that day. You see, the best openers are natural and based on every day situations. You’re not trying to be clever or fancy.

You’re simply asking a question or making a statement based on something you’ve probably seen dozens of times in your life already. How many times in your life have you seen a woman wrapped up for winter?

It’s a common situation you’ve seen before, and you can make an observation with authority and confidence. Once you make your statement or asked your question you simple have a conversation afterwards.

It’s all about speaking with conviction and confidence. If you try to use pick-up lines you’re not going to feel confident because you know deep down you probably sound like an idiot. When you use a pick-up line, women know right away you’re using a line and aren’t genuine.

Stop trying to think of something clever to say, and concentrate on the moment. Look at what’s going on around you, and use life to come up with conversation openers. Women are present and they’re naturally attracted to men who are present too. Talking to people becomes so much easier when you stop trying to get tricky with your words, and just start talking.

So…

There is no magic opener. There is no fail-safe pick-up line. Women want to meet a man, not a parrot who can repeat some stupid lines over and over.