What exactly is a love trailer?

Is it a mobile home that you can attach to your car, and when you take a long road trip with your significant other you can pull over to the side of the road and get naughty back there?

Is it a trailer that people come to for love advice?

Is it a place where everybody congregates and meets up and tells stories about dating and relationships?

Is it a new movie coming out called “The Love Trailer”?

Or is it something you’ve never even thought about? Is it something that happens to us on a regular basis? Is it part of the cycle of falling in love?

There’s something called zing.

I’ve been writing a lot about zing.

Zing is the magic moment when two people find each other and fall in love.

I stole it from an Adam Sandler movie called Hotel Transylvania. When he, Dracula, talked about when he met his wife, Mrs. Dracula, and the zing he felt and hasn’t felt since.

His daughter felt zing for a human. Mabel fell in love with little Johnny and they both felt zing for each other.

The real question is, how do we get to zing? How do we stay strong when we have zing previews but it doesn’t work out?

Dating has cycles.

When a relationship ends, it takes time for you to heal. We go through stages of healing.soft_love

We go through the self-doubt stage. We go through the stage of wondering if we’ll ever meet anybody again. We go through the stage of self worth, why did the other person not love you.

There are many stages of a relationship ending. Many stages of you healing and getting ready for the zing again.

Zing doesn’t come necessarily on the first zing.

I call it a zing preview.

You meet somebody, you like them, they’re pretty amazing. You feel a connection you haven’t felt for a long time.

You’re excited because you’ve done the work on yourself and you’ve started to heal and you’ve been putting it out to the universe that you really want a relationship.

All of a sudden, zing comes. You get excited, you think that this man is going to be different than anybody you’ve met and you think that all the work you’ve done on yourself is paying off.

Then just as quickly as the zing came in, the zing flies out the back door.

You feel defeated and broken and self-doubt creeps in.

You think to yourself, that was zing. How did it not work?

You get into your head a little bit. Maybe you over analyze it and talk to your friends and try to figure out what you did wrong.

What happened?

You think there must be a way to reconcile that short, heartfelt zing.

It’s part of the process of falling in love all over again.

You just went into what I call the dating theater.

It’s like you sat down in a movie theater, getting ready to watch the feature film.

You got to watch previews of movies you may or may not want to see in the future. You got a zing preview.

Too many people get closed down after a zing goes south, and then you’ve got to go through the healing work again. The self-doubt. Thinking you don’t deserve amazing. The feeling of being unlovable.

That’s when you need to realize you just had a zing preview.

When you’re dating, you may have a series of zing previews. And if you just recognize the zing preview for what it is, you stay strong, and you get even more hungry.

When you’re on that quest for a new relationship, you may have a few zing previews. But if you stay strong after each preview falls apart, one will finally get to the ultimate level.

By remaining open, you’re telling the universe that you like the zing previews you encounter.

You’re thanking the universe for giving you the zing preview. You’re excited that the universe showed you what zing can be.

Then you’re more open.

Don’t quit when you get a zing preview.

Realize the universe is testing you. Testing how bad you want it. Testing how open you are.

Remain open, keep your heart space open, and I promise you that one of the next zings to show up won’t be just a preview, it’s going to be the actual zing.