The key to everything in life, love, success, is to forgive.

We’re human beings. We make mistakes every single day. How many of you are battling somebody in your life right now, maybe an ex, maybe your wife, maybe your husband, maybe your best friend, maybe your brother, your sister, your mother, your father? You just can’t forgive them for something they did to you.

Maybe somebody cheated on you, took money from you, didn’t show up at dad’s funeral or whatever else. What you’re doing is wasting valuable, precious time. Time that could be spent experiencing the beauty of that person.

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Forgiveness is the key to life. Being able to forgive someone is essential, but the first thing you need to do is to be able to forgive yourself.

You need to look in the mirror. You need to actually look at yourself in the mirror and say: “I forgive myself. I forgive myself for getting in that situation. I forgive myself for making that mistake. I forgive myself for screwing somebody over. I forgive myself for not paying somebody back.” And you also need to forgive other people that have wronged you.

Standing beside you right now or in front of you is a changed person. But you don’t see it because you can’t forgive.

As human beings, we make mistakes every single day. Every day, we make mistakes. So you need to learn to forgive yourself first and others second. In order to truly find love or happiness or success in life, you need to forgive everybody.

You know that person who cuts you off in traffic and makes you late for a meeting. When you go to that meeting, what do you do? You bitch and complain about the person who cut you off and caused you to be late. Which means you’re going into that meeting with the energy of anger. You don’t get the job. Matter of fact, you don’t get anything from it. Forgive yourself.

In order to live, to love, to be successful, you need to forgive.

I have a friend, Greg. He came to me to borrow money for a new business. He borrowed money from several of his friends and family. He was very confident and motivated and it was a pretty good idea. Guess what happened? He lost everything.

He came to each of us with the same story. He told his whole fucking story about who he was and what he did and what a complete scumbag he was and how he was going to pay everyone back. Blah, blah, blah. He went into this whole fucking synopsis of how he caused pain for his friends and brother and uncle and everybody around him.

When he came to me, when he lost my money, the first thing he said to me was, “I am so sorry.” I made a choice in that moment whether to forgive him or not. I chose to forgive him. I realize this was a lifelong lesson for me to learn the value of forgiveness.

I had to forgive him because what was I going to do? Hold my anger inside, be pissed off? The money wasn’t coming back. Not now. Maybe years from now it will come back, but not right now.

Forgiveness. It’s everything in life. The power of forgiveness, man.