This is for those of you who like to go on the fast lane, the left hand lane. And you get into a relationship and you’re in there and you’re blinking your light at everybody who’s moving slow in the left lane.

Like, get out of my way, get out of my way.

I’m in a relationship. I got to get to the other end of the highway as quickly as possible. I need to have my future right now.

I’m that person in the right hand lane.

And you’re wondering, how is he driving on the freeway with their hazards on the whole time, blinking, going 20 miles and hour? When you are in the left hand lane moving 1,000 miles an hour.

Well you see, I’ve got the hazards on, because well, the first 90 to 120 days of a relationship, you’ve got to have your hazards on.

You got to have your blinkers on. Because that’s when you’re gathering information.

You are learning about somebody. Understanding them. Seeing how they react in different situations.

Sure, will you have feelings of love? Yeah, unless you’re like me. Of course you’re going to have feelings of love.

Do you want a future with that person? Sure, if everything works out.

But most of the time in life, you’re moving slow because you want to see what comes up in front of you on the road ahead.

You don’t want to move past the relationships that go 100 miles and hour in the left hand lane where relationships never work out.

I always feel like sometimes my grandmother when I’m in a relationship. The way she used to drive. Really slow in the left hand lane. Everybody would pass her and give her dirty looks.

I understand it now.

The slower you go, the more you learn.

Sure, at the start of the first two weeks of dating you can talk to each other and go, yeah, get married with me.

I want kids one day.

I want to live with somebody. Great, you’re on the same page. Okay.

But then, you spend the next year of your life in the right hand lane with the hazards on going as slow as possible. Doesn’t mean that you’re not seeing each other all the time, doesn’t mean that you’re not hanging out. Doesn’t mean you’re dating other people.

It just means that you’re taking your time getting to know somebody.

We accept stories about who we want in relationships.

We so desperately want them there with us.

We so desperately want to feel safe and secure.

It’s almost like when you’re with somebody who’s moving 1,000 miles an hour you think to yourself.

Is it me that they want? Or is it just the idea of me? And I fit this idea.

Love takes time. There’s a million songs about that. If human beings because of all their past history and because they feel like they don’t have much time left.

They’re in their 40s, they’re in their 50s, they’re in their 60s, they’re in their 20s. They feel like they don’t have time.

And me, I’m going to slowly take my time in that right hand lane.

I’m going to learn about somebody. I’m going to drive like a little old lady on a Sunday afternoon in my classic automobile. And I’m going to allow someone show up and present themselves. And eventually, I’ll end up in a great relationship. Because I did not go at the speed of sound.

So for all you left lane driving people, good luck to you. Because every relationship that goes 1,000 miles an hour is a relationship that basically ends up being a relationship that ends up in divorce because.

They didn’t really get to know each other. You got to know the ideal, and you got to put each other in each other’s stories. And stories are only good sitting around the campfire at summer camp and telling children before they go to bed.

But a love story is better when it’s in the right hand lane of life.