As I was driving on Memorial Day, last month, to a barbecue:

A phone number popped up.

A 310-309 number.

Wow.

My cell phone number starts with 310.

And the next three digits are 309.

I was thinking, it’s got to be somebody I don’t know. It’s got to be somebody that needs to connect with me.

I answer the phone.

And, it’s a cheery voice telling me about some vacation that I stayed at, at some place, I’m going to get some employee discount, and she starts giggling, and I hung up.

Didn’t even allow her to finish the pitch.

All I was thinking about was, man, these telemarketing companies are smart. Are they learning how to mask the first three digits of your phone number?

They’re calling my cell phone now, which is really annoying. But then again, not many people have a home line, so they have to be calling you somehow. So, I’m sure that this is their new way of doing things.

All of you who have trouble approaching and talking to women and fear rejection, just go get a telemarketing job for a couple hours.

Because that is pure rejection.

I mean, this woman was probably thinking before the call, maybe I’ll try the giggle approach?

I didn’t even acknowledge her. I didn’t even tell her I wasn’t even interested. I just rudely hung up.

I’m sure this happens to her all day long, non-stop. But, yes, everyday, she goes to work and hopes that somebody is going to say yes. Somebody is going to communicate with her.

Somebody’s going to buy whatever she’s selling.

Pray to the law of averages when it comes down to life, and eventually somebody’s going to buy her thing. She’s going to make her commission, she’s going to pay her bills.

And then, she’s going to feed her family, feed her children. Well, maybe I’m just taking the story a little too far, but you get my drift on it.

GreenPeace people stand on the street and solicit people, get rejected non-stop, and every day they’re out there.

The Gay Lesbian Foundation, well, not only do people walk by them, but people who are homophobic probably make comments to them. And yet, every day, they’re out on a street corner playing the odds.

Sales people who need to make phone calls besides telemarketers are playing the odds, yet so many of you who are single, you go and you talk to somebody, and they reject you and you cry like a little baby all the way home. And you get so upset.

You fear rejection so much, that you try it one more time and then, and then, you blame whoever told you to do this, that it doesn’t work for you, and you validate the fact that people reject you non-stop. Cry, little baby, cry.

How does it make you feel when I say those words? I called you a crybaby. Because that’s exactly what you are.

See, when you’re out there telemarketing, GreenPeacing, doing other things, you don’t take things personally at all. Again, talk to somebody and they hang up on you. They weren’t interested. You move on to the next, and the next, and the next, because eventually someone is going to say, yes I want to talk to you.

And it’s exactly the same when it comes down to meeting somebody.

You see, rejection is this made up wince words. This made up insecure word for people who, well, just don’t really want to keep trying and don’t want to keep making their life move forward. So, they’ll say things like, I was rejected, and they are afraid of rejection.

Rejection doesn’t exist. It’s BS in every way, shape, and form. It’s ridiculous. Somebody who doesn’t talk to you and doesn’t want to talk to you because they just want to do something, doesn’t mean that you’re not a great person, it only just means that you’re acting like a little crybaby.

The other day, I was working with a client, Blake. There was this woman walking at Whole Foods, she had a California sweatshirt on, California pants on, and I said to her, I go, man, you are really pro California.

She looked at me, gave me a dirty look and said, have a nice day. Oh my god, did I go crying to my client? No. I don’t care. I don’t care if somebody doesn’t want to talk to me because rejection doesn’t exist in my language, and in my mindset, because they have a choice, and they chose not to talk to me.

So be it, I will go find somebody else. Stop crying like a little baby. If you want a great life, you have to have people, you have to have the drive and the desire to have people say no to you. It’s that simple. It’s that easy. Alright, I was a little rough with you today, but sometimes I feel like you need it.