Since the beginning of time – I’ll go back to the caveman days – men and women have been trying to define what attraction really is.

To use a word, we call it chemistry. We call it passion. We call it an uncontrollable urge to be around somebody.

It’s primal in so many ways.

In other ways it’s innocent, it’s very warm, it’s beautiful and real.

Attraction.

How do you create attraction with a woman?law-of-attraction

How do you trigger it?

How do you walk over to a woman and trigger that attraction so she thinks of you in ways she has never thought of other guys?

Attraction isn’t a choice. It either happens or it doesn’t. It’s primal in so many ways.

I know when I see a woman that I’m attracted to, it either happens or it doesn’t. And it happens in an instant. I can’t help it.

There are some people I’m attracted to, and other people I’m not. And no matter what that person says or does, I either feel it instantly or I don’t. That’s how I’m attracted to somebody.

I like to look at a woman from afar. I like to watch the way she moves, the way she talks. I like to feel her energy. That way I can figure out if I’m attracted or not.

Sometimes I look at somebody and I’m attracted to them instantly. Other times I’ll look at them and I’ll find them appealing and the more I watch them the more I become attracted to them.

But my version of attraction can be totally opposite of your version.

What Do You Find Attractive?

You may look at woman and immediately want to have sex with her. That feeling never comes up for me. I don’t want to have sex with somebody I don’t even know. My attraction usually percolates.

It takes me a little while to really want to have sex with a woman. Sure I may find her beautiful and feel attracted to her, but it takes me a while to really feel it.

But when I feel it, everything comes out, my primal being, my animal instincts, everything. I can sit opposite a woman on a sofa and stare at her for hours, and then all of the sudden, it just kicks in and goes into overdrive. For you, it might be in an instant.

You might find a woman attractive and after 10 minutes want to sleep with her. I get that and understand. Attraction is different for everybody.

So when you meet a woman for the first time, and you ask her out, and she doesn’t respond or doesn’t feel what you want her to feel, you have to respect that. Just like I have a different definition of attraction, you have a different definition of attraction, and women are exactly the same way.

Attraction really isn’t a choice at all. It either happens or it doesn’t.

So the next time you meet somebody, if she doesn’t feel if for you, realize that everybody’s version of attraction, chemistry, whatever it might be, is entirely their choice.

Respect it. Honor it. Don’t get frustrated.

Don’t go home and think you did something wrong or there was something you could have done to change her mind. Something you could have done to manipulate or create attraction. It’s either there or it’s not.

Honor it.

Honor yourself and move forward and meet somebody else who’s going to find you equally as attractive as you find them. A relationship will never work when there’s not mutual attraction.

Both parties need to be mutually attracted to each other for a relationship to even have a chance.

If one person is more attracted to the other person, the relationship is never going to work out. The other person will always feel like there’s something missing.

Mutual attraction is what you’re craving. Keep this in mind the next time you get frustrated by a woman who doesn’t find you amazing and spectacular.

It’s all about mutual attraction.