I hear of this over and over again from women and I’m going to share it with all you boys…

Men…

Grandfathers…

And every other male species, so you understand what you’re doing to a woman.

Never let a woman spin out of control.

What does that mean?

Never let her overthink something. And I’m going to tell you why.

When a woman starts to become vulnerable, she likes you. Yay, bravo, that’s great.

But when you don’t validate her —

Make her feel comfortable between dates —

Break all forms of contact and disappear into the man cave for two weeks —

You’re going to allow her to spin out of control.

I got a great e-mail today that really exemplifies what men have been doing to women for years, and there’s a way to stop it right now. So read this and understand.

The e-mail went something like this.

Dear David,

I’ve been seeing this guy for a little while now and know we both really like each other. When I see him he’s very keen to make plans and he’s super great.

But,

He is so bad on the phone and at making plans.

He’s 32 years old and he messages me on weird things like Instagram.

I asked him to call me and he ignores it.

And I have no idea when I’m going to see him next and I really don’t want to feel like I have to drive the relationship car.

David, help me, please.

Amy, New York City.

Amy, Amy, Amy —

And all the men reading and listening and wondering right now what my response is —

Do you want to know my response is?

Women don’t want to feel like they have to drive the car. A man leads.

Make plans.

Tell her when you’re going to see her next.

Don’t go out with her on a Monday and then don’t have any type of contact until the following Monday and then try to get together in two weeks.

If you like a woman, allow her to show up for you by making distinct plans with her.

It’s extremely important as a man that you drive the car of the relationship or the prospective relationship that’s happening right now.

Too many a guys allow women to flounder.

Allow women to just kind of wander and wonder what is going on.

It’s really simple. Make plans. Tell her the next time you’re going to see her.

Follow up via text or a quick little phone call or great voice message during the week between dates. Keep the contact so she doesn’t think she’s wasting her time with an immature man that doesn’t understand the simplicity of romance.

She’s not asking you for flowers.

She’s not asking you for major wine-and-dine dinners.

She’s not looking for a ring, nor is she looking for you to take her to Hawaii right now.

But what she is looking for is a man that understands that he’s got a plan.

And that plan is her and you.

Your plan is to get to know her.

You don’t want to make her wonder and think that you’re dating 13 other people.

You don’t want to make her wonder if she’s dating the right person.

And you want to avoid at all costs her sitting down and discussing this with her friends.

Because her friends will throw you under the bus faster than a snow storm hits the Rockies in January.

The minute you put any type of doubt in her mind, then she’s literally going to feed that doubt.

She’s going to e-mail people like me.

Or she’s going to Google search and wonder whether or not you’re into her and what type of game you are playing.

You do not want to create this doubt, my friends. Trust me. You want to keep her steady. You want to keep her liking you and you want to keep her in check. Meaning she wants to know that she’s with a man and not a boy.