Are you somebody that listens to what everyone else thinks?

Somebody who who hears that women don’t want to be approached, so you don’t do it.

Somebody who hears that women don’t want to be met at a supermarket, so you don’t do it.

Somebody who hears that women don’t want to be met on the street, so you don’t do it.

Are you constantly trying to validate your own excuses by looking to the masses to validate what you’re feeling?

I was talking to a client today. He looked at me and said, “Women just don’t want to be approached at the gym. I talked to several of my girlfriends about it, and that’s the general consensus.

I said great, “I am so glad that several of your girlfriends know the exact answer for every single woman in the entire world. Every woman in the entire world doesn’t want to be approach at the gym? Yeah, you’re right…that validates your excuses.”

My client starts laughing and says, “You know, they are women. They said that they don’t like to be approached at all.”

“Oh my god, was it the same group of women that basically told you that women don’t want to be approached at the gym? Did you get them all together one day and just ask them these things to validate your own fear?”

Here’s the deal guys: I couldn’t give a shit what the masses say.

I do my own thing.

If I want to approach somebody at a gym, at a coffee shop, or at a supermarket, I do it. If I find somebody interesting, if I like their energy, I’m going to go find out who they are.

I do it because I never want to go home and say to myself, “Oh God, why didn’t I go talk to that person, why didn’t I go meet this person?”

Stop listening to the masses and start doing what your heart wants.

Stop validating excuses, that’s all you’re doing. You’re looking for somebody to validate your own excuses and whenever you do that, you can always find it.

Instead, go for what you want.