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Here’s a simple blog for you right now. I’m not even going to make you read it for five minutes.
I’m going to give you the number one secret to regaining focus and clarity in your life. So you can live a life that is more present and clear than cluttered.
The other day I got a text message from T-Mobile. I went over my six gigs of data for the month.
I’ve never done that in my life.
You see, I’m somebody who turns off ALL notifications.
Every single one of them.
I don’t need, at all, to have all of these notifications coming at me 7,000 miles an hour.
I don’t need to know when my friends posted on Facebook.
I don’t really need to know that Shopgirl27 posted a new picture on Instagram.
Notifications. I literally forgot to turn off Instagram and Facebook messenger. Which in turn was constantly on in my phone.
You see, your phone is constantly talking to the world of numbers up in the sky and what happens is, is that you’re constantly having your phone communicate. Not only that, but you’re bringing in bad radio waves non-stop into your body. The more stuff that’s coming into your phone, the more cancer causing materials that are coming in to your life.
Not to mention that, the more stimulus you’re getting, the more distracted you become.
How many times have you found yourself at a restaurant, or laying in bed, or hanging out with a friend… and you notice your screen coming to life on your phone?
You may have turned off all sounds, yet you still have notification bars that come up.
The next time you see a notification bar come up, ask yourself, did you check it?
Did it distract you?
Did it stop you in mid sentence from the conversation you were having and you felt intrigued and compelled to find out what Shopgirl27 posted on Instagram or Facebook?
I know I’ve talked to people many times on the phone and I can hear their vibration of their phone going through the phone call. I can hear them get distracted because I know a message came from somebody who wasn’t even in the room with us. It was usually something on social media. Or a text from somebody else.
Now granted, if it’s during work hours, I can thoroughly understand that if a text or an e-mail comes up and someone gets distracted, it comes up from somebody at work or something they need to take care of, and that to me is fully acceptable in our life. When we’re in enslave the dragon mode and work mode, and it’s okay to have notifications come up.
But how many times have you been hanging out with somebody in their house?
Or having dinner or coffee with them, and the notification bar comes up and you see them glint their eyes downward, and you feel them disconnect to you in that second?
Even if they don’t check it.
Even if they don’t look at Shopgirl26’s Instagram photo of the gluten free organic vanilla sugar-free chocolate almond milk she just purchased from Whole Foods.
You lose their attention for a good three to five seconds. So you could be telling them about something that’s so amazing and they got distracted. You can literally feel them check out of their body.
You can literally feel everything.
So the fact is they get distracted, you get distracted, and the conversation that was going somewhere, all of a sudden gets interrupted.
We’ve got enough distractions, folks. I talked about it in a podcast today, actually.
Turn off your notifications.
It’s not important who posts on Instagram. Check it when you’ve got some free time, when you’re alone.
I’ve got no issues with Instagram and Facebook. Check it on your own time. Don’t check it on my time when I’m connecting with you and I’m giving up my time for you unless we decide, both of us, or the group of us, are going to go Instagram looking right now and show each other pictures or Facebook posts, or memes, or youtube videos. I have no issues with that.
Turn off all sounds. There’s no reason to have signs on your phone. My phone is on vibrate 24/7 and if I’m with friends, I tend to turn my phone off. There’s really nothing I need to know.
Sometimes, some of you are connected and you need to stay connected and there might be a work text that might come in, which is fine. I actually have it so only certain numbers that are allowed to come in after certain times.
There are ways for you to program your phone so you control it. Instead of it controlling you.
Time is very precious to us. Time is something that we’ll never get back. Connecting with other humans is why I work here.
Ok, that’s it. I will talk to you soon.
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