Dear David WygantToday’s Dear David could stir up a couple of hornet’s nests, but should serve as a little warning for any of you who sneak off for late night sessions with the lube. It’s from a guy named Gus from Birmingham who says…

“Dear David,

My girlfriend caught me watching porn on my computer the other night. She went completely nuts and now she won’t talk to me. What can I say to make things right? I love her like crazy. I just had the urge you know?”

David Says…

There you are, up late one night. You should be tired but you’re having trouble falling asleep. You’re girlfriend is sleeping peacefully next to you. She looks so cute. You’d love to wake her up for a late night “sex-a-thon” but she said she was exhausted from work and couldn’t wait to get some sleep. She’ll be super mad if you wake her up now.

You decide to go downstairs and watch some television. There has to be some sport on somewhere. You flick around, and after a while, you decide to check your emails. A few mouse clicks later and you find yourself on a porn site, looking at some of the clips. Some of them are hot. You get a little turned on. “What the hell?” You think to yourself. You turn the volume right down, and start to “enjoy yourself.”

Suddenly, you hear your girlfriend from the doorway, “What an earth are you doing?”

She’s busted you. And not only does she now know you watch porn, but she also knows you relieve yourself to it. You turn around sheepishly, not really knowing what to say. You’re blushing and hot. Is she going to be mad? Is she going to tell you it’s over? She doesn’t sound happy about it that’s for sure.

“What If She Thinks I Have A Porn Addiction?”

Sound a little like what happened Gus? So what do you do? The first thing is there’s no point in trying to deny it. She saw exactly what you were doing. For all you know she could have been standing there watching you for a few minutes. She knows you watch porn, and she knows it turns you on. My advice for any guy busted in the act like this is to try to engage your woman. Tell her to, “Come here and watch it with me. You can help me out.”

Or something like, “I wanted you so badly honey, but you looked so peaceful and I didn’t want to wake you up.”

There’s no point in trying to deny it. Some women love watching porn. Porn turns some women on like crazy. Other women are repulsed by the idea of porn, and even more horrified at the thought their man pleasures himself watching it. If you’re dating a woman who hates porn, you’re going to have to swallow your pride and accept whatever “punishment” she chooses to dish out.

Either she’ll forgive you, or she’s going to make you suffer. All you can do is apologize, tell her you got carried away, and tell her it’s not real. I’m sure most women would rather you watched porn now and then rather than going off and cheating on them. Just don’t try to pretend you didn’t watch it. There’s no escaping the truth on this one my friend. She caught you in the act. Just own what you did, and see how she reacts.