SuccessLet me share something personal with all of you today.

This is going to be one of the most powerful lessons you’re going to hear in 2013 so you’d better listen up. In fact, this lesson is so powerful; it needs to become your mantra from now on. Today I hit a milestone. I’ll share it with you in a second, but first I need to backtrack a couple of years so you can see where this journey began. About 4 years ago, I blew a disc in my lower back. An 11-millimeter fragment from my L4-L5. 

It blew me away. I knew it was coming because I used to get back spasms for years. I was doing everything I could to prevent it happening, but obviously, I didn’t do enough. It took one single sneeze and that was it!

I remember going to the doctor and him telling me I’d need surgery. Another doctor looked at me and said, “You have build your strength up again, but it’s going to take time. How dedicated are you?”

“Shit, I’m so dedicated it’s ridiculous. Are you kidding me? I teach dedication to people. How long will it take?” I asked.

“I don’t know.” He said. “Your body should absorb it. Maybe a year or two. I wanted a magic pill, not a year or two of hard work!

So what did I do?

I did what most people do. I back spasmed out a few more times, and then limped myself into this clinic called, “Egoscue.”

They gave me these little exercises. Laying down flat and moving your legs a little bit. It was crazy. I barely felt any difference at all. The next time I went back and I spent money. I spent $4000 going back and forth doing rehab. It reminded me of “Karate Kid.”  I was doing these wax-on wax-off exercises. I wanted to feel strong and powerful at the end of it. Since starting at “Egoscue” my back only spasmed on me once in the last 3 years, and that was only for about 12 hours. I knew what I did  was working, but I still wanted to know when I would be completely free from fear my back would spasm again.

Today I got my answer. My ex used to run a pilates studio, and I used to get so frustrated when I went there, because I always struggled. I struggled with my legs and I struggled with my core. I’ve always been a work-out person, but I’m a typical dude and I’d hit the gym, slam some weights, and ignore the most important core muscles. Then it dawned on me…

Everything I’ve been doing with “Egoscue” was building my core muscles. My hips, my stomach, my legs, hamstrings, everything. So today I did pilates and I slammed through it like a pro. This was a big revelation for me. All the hard work I’ve been doing on my core had made this possible. The hard work was paying off. Every single day I kept going. No matter whether I was travelling, or if I was on vacation, I’d still do my exercises. Every day I dedicated an hour to doing them. Did I feel like it every day? 100% no!

Were there days I was so tired I didn’t want to do it anymore? Absolutely!

I remember some nights when I’d been coaching all day doing a boot camp, and my back would be so sore. Sometimes I wouldn’t get back to the hotel until midnight. All I wanted to do was crawl into bed, but I’d sit there and do my core exercises no matter what. I was 100% dedicated because I wanted to feel great again. I truly begin with that level of dedication there are no limits to what you can change in your life. Today was the payoff. It was almost like having sex with the beauty queen I’d been chasing for years. I powered through the Pilates session. I felt strong, and I felt great all day long. How does this relate to your life?

You don’t know by now? Are you kidding me? Are you an alien? 

Doesn’t this sound like how you behave in relation to meeting women? Do you go out every day and meet them? Do you listen to all the small annoying exercises I give you in all my programs?

That’s right. All my programs have these annoying, repetitive exercises I make you go out and practice every day. Because that’s how you build muscle. Doesn’t matter whether it’s a physical muscle or a social muscle. There’s no magic pill. Even if I’d have had surgery, there’s no guarantee it would have worked. In fact, I could have ended up a lot worse off. Strength comes to people that go out every day and work on the little things.

You’ve heard me say it thousands of times. Every single day, Payton Manning throws the same passes over and over again in practice until he gets it perfect. Malcom Gladwell said it in his book, “Outliers” you have to put in 10,000 hours to become an expert at anything. Count the hours you put into meeting women. How many days do you skip, get frustrated, and then have to start all over again?

Every day you skip, you have to go back and start all over again. I knew I never wanted to go back to ground zero with my back. I knew I wanted to heal myself, and the only way to do that was by doing the work every day. So, 2014 is around the corner. What are you going to do? What action are you going to take?

What are you going to do today and tomorrow? What are you going to do to become the man you can be with women? Will you push through the tough times? Will you do the work even when you don’t feel like it? How much do you really desire change?

Change doesn’t come because you talk about it to yourself. Change comes because of the actions you take once you’ve had that talk with yourself. Are you ready to walk the walk in 2014?

You can come up with your own personal action plan and hold yourself accountable then great. If you struggle to hold yourself accountable, I strongly suggest we find a way we can work together. It could be through direct coaching with me, or a member of my team. Maybe you’ve been thinking about a boot camp. If total immersion works better for you then dive into one of them. I want you to have the best 2014. But first, you need to look at yourself and ask, “Did I do everything possible to make changes in 2013? Did I put in the work I should have done? Did I do the exercises in the programs which work for the men who choose to follow through?”

Aren’t you tired of not getting all the things you want from life? Aren’t you tired of the fear that holds you back from what you desire?

Let me tell you, there are beautiful women waiting for you, but you have to do the work in order to build your confidence, and build that social muscle every day.

If you’re thinking of investing in my programs (and only invest if you’re actually going to use them) my suggestion would be to start with “The Fearless Code” to get you over your nerves and fear of rejection around women, and then move on to “The Men’s Mastery Series” which is a complete blueprint for personal and dating success.

It’s your move!