I have a great podcast to share with you today, but first let me ask you a question, and I want you to be honest. Not for my benefit, but for your own. How many of you turn to your friends for dating advice when something happens between you and a guy?

How many of you have brunch after brunch with your friends, going over a failed date or relationship, looking for clues as to what went wrong?

I see and hear it all the time. I’ll be out for lunch and I’ll hear a group of women talking. One will say something like, “Why did he go cold on me? Things were going so well, and then he suddenly pushed me away.”

Then one of the friends will pipe up, “I never liked that guy. I bet he’s cheating on you. Maybe he’s even married!”

Another will say, “No he seemed really sweet. Maybe he just has commitment issues?”

Finally the miserable one in the group who hasn’t had a boyfriend since prom will come in with, “I’d just forget him. All men are the same. I don’t know why you’re bothering to look for love anyway. Men never commit!”

So how do you feel after a discussion with your friends?

Are you motivated? Are you any less confused about why the guy went cold on you? Do you feel any better about things?

My guess is you probably feel frustrated, hurt, and totally confused. Here’s what I tell women all the time in this situation. If a man goes cold and you want to know why, pick up the phone and ask him. If he isn’t picking up his phone, Facebook him. Don’t waste months at a time trying to figure out what went wrong. It’s just not worth it.

Anyway, this is more about why it’s so dangerous to get dating advice from your girlfriends. And in today’s podcast, I look at some of the reasons they’re the worst people to talk to about your relationships, and give you some simple alternatives. Enjoy, and I’d love to hear your experiences below.