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I hear this all the time from guys:
“I don’t like to go to bars. So where are the best places to meet women?”
Newsflash guys:
I don’t like bars (or clubs) either, but I have no problems meeting women.
What’s my secret?
Find out in today’s video:
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Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.
I'm so glad that David posted this video, because this video illustrates EXACTLY what I've been talking about.
Watch the video closely when they pan the camera around.
Yes, there are many single women in there. Yes, there are more women then men. The problem is, look at the AGES of the single women.
There are many very cute girls in there, (and some scary looking), but they ALL appear to be in their late teens, to very early 20's. The girl working behind the counter looks like she is 17-19 y.o. , tops. For a single guy in his late 30's-early 40's, all of these women are out of his dating age range.
Now, look around the room, and find the women who appear to be in their 30's or older. ALL of them are with their husbands / families.
I'm not criticizing David, nor am I saying his advice is wrong. But what I see in this video is exactly the same scene I see here in my city. Wether it be Applebees, Friday's, Starbucks, Barnes and Noble,, name the place, same scene.
There is not a single woman in this video that I would not feel creepy approaching as a 40 year old man.
Am I missing something here? Does everyone not see the same age ranges that I do?
The question is,, what to do? (Without resorting to online dating, which I both hate, and am terrible at.)
Here we go with John, he seems to think he knows all the ages of the women...lol. What's he worried about? He's looking for a 27 year old gal...lol First of all, John...people come and go, so there is no way of stereo typing everyone in two minutes or less who goes there. If you want a real sample, then go at various times. When was the last time he was at a vegan place?
John is right. As a matter of fact, women (and the same goes for men) who are above 30 and single are pretty much not there. They don't exist. But that really doesn't mean very much. I know plenty of people who are in unhappy relationships, and who would leave when someone better shows up. It's like the job market: 90 percent of people are not really happy with their jobs, and they switch when the opportunity arises.
You guys are very quick to assume who is taken and who is not. The only ways I know of to tell if a woman is taken is if she has either a ring or a man wrapped around her. And I mean making out or canoodling each other, not showing up together. Didnt see any of that in this video.
My current flirtfriend is always coming + leaving with some guy. Because SHE DOESNT OWN A CAR and always needs a ride. I know someone who would make it a point to go out with her brother for protection + filtering guys. If she liked someone she'd introduce him as her brother, otherwise she'd let the guys go ahead and make their silly little assumptions.
By the way I have to give women credit for being VERY quick to point that they have a boyfriend if that is the case. Wow, you went to college? Guess who else went to college? My BOYFRIEND! Then again even that doesn't mean much. She could just be blowing you off stealthily, or testing you, or have a shitty boyfriend she is willing to leave for the right guy.
Ooh, wait, technically speaking:
If a woman has a man wrapped around her, she MAY be openly polyamorous and have room for another so even that is not 100% conclusive proof of unavailability :). Or the guy might be an abusive jerk but she needs someone to point that out to her because she's been brainwashed.
If a woman has a ring around her finger, she MAY just be using that as a trick to fend off guys because she is not in the mood for meeting guys today, but if Mr. Perfect comes along she'd change her mind of course. Or maybe she just won a finger ring toy in her Cracker Jack box and put it on her ring finger for kicks.
Now, I would easily take a 100 to one bet AGAINST these being the case (except for the less outlandish abusive jerk scenario), but still, I like to point out assumptions people make and question them. It's a skill I have.
I'm with Technoboy. If a girl is not interested in you, she will tell you about her boyfriend in less than 1/2 a minute.
You don't hear that? Fair game.
Yeah...I'm a hunter. Vegetarian women don't usually think very highly of me.
That said, you've just got to find places to go and things to do that you enjoy. Then you talk to the women who are there too. It's not that hard, and if it is, you need to stop being a pussy.
If they're taken, have them set you up with their single friends.
Important question for the people on this blog:
Honestly, how often do you exchange contact info AND actually go out on a date with someone you've just met once for a few minutes? No, not online dating or speed dating or bars where you'd expect that, but spontaneously in normal everyday life? Because I've only done that once, ever, and it lead to exactly two dates. Most of the time it just doesn't feel natural to ask, and personally I would feel skittish about giving my number to someone I just met too. Talked about the topic with some women the other night and they of course say they feel the same way. But are they just saying that, like the way they just say they want a smart and funny guy??
OK, so if you are David Wygant, I honestly believe you can find datefriends by just talking to a supermarket stranger about kumquats for two minutes. But that is some serious black belt level jiu jitsu though. For 'normal' people I think it takes some time to familiarize yourself with someone before you start swapping contact info + going out.
I've been taking a different route lately. I'm throwing all my eggs into my best baskets. Cutting down on the number of activities I do and places I visit, but getting more active and involved in the scenes I do go to (helping out with volunteering + getting people together socially afterwards). That way I get to know the regulars, get a reputation for myself, and no pressure to swap contact info with a total stranger or anything.
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John
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