You always hear the saying, “Get out of your head,” but a lot of people don’t know what that really means or how to do it. I get asked all the time how to do this.

The way I do it is really easy. I happen to have been born with a zipper on my skull, so all I have to do is peel back my toupee, unzip the back of my head, and crawl out (usually feet first). It’s a really interesting phenomenon to watch me, because I’ll just be there laying on the ground and then all of a sudden I’ll whip my toupee off, unzip my head and crawl right out.

Sometimes I’ll get out shoulders first, then I go heart, then I go stomach, then I go groin, then I go legs. Sometimes if I’m in a really flexible mood, though, I’ll be able to get my legs all the way up to my head.

Okay, obviously I’m kidding about all of this. How do you really get out of your head though?

Dating Head Games

The way I learned how to do it was by writing everything down. I kept a journal, and every day I wrote down like a maniac all my thoughts, fears and insecurities.

When I did that, I found that there was a recurring theme. I would go and try to talk to people. If it didn’t work, I would go and write all my feelings down instead of getting totally inside my head.

I’d write everything down because by getting all my thoughts and fears out of my head, I never remained in my head. I put all that “stuff” somewhere else, and that allowed me to move forward.

The key thing to understand is that when you keep all these thoughts, feelings and insecurities in your head, you tend to over-think things. When you over-think things, there is no way in the world you’re going to be able to react to situations in the right way. There’s no way in the world you are going to be able to meet people.

So the next time you’re in your head, write down what you’re feeling. Get it out. Become self-aware. It’s a great exercise for all of you to do.