Hey guys, Shogo here with another post to get you up and running for the weekend!

David and I are in London, getting energized and ready this morning for David’s final London bootcamp of 2011. It”s promising to be an absolute blast, all of the guys I’ve talked to online and over email, we’re all pumped and ready to meet a ton of new people everywhere and make some major breakthroughs in the process!

On my flight from Beirut to London yesterday, I had a great conversation with a group of fun, intelligent, and really attractive girls (just the kind of girls any guy would want to meet) who were returning to London after a long week of partying it up in the Beirut nightlife for a bachelorette party. Or “hen do”, as the Brits call it.

The girls and I had a fantastic conversation the whole way, and because they spent their days partying in bars and clubs and basically not seeing the light of day, I figured I’d pick their brain for you guys and use what they told me as inspiration for today’s blog.

Now keep in mind these girls were really confident, outgoing, and full of energy. To give you an idea, one of the bachelorette’s tasks was to approach 3 guys and bite them on the nipples. She ended up biting 10 guys’ nipples.

That got me thinking, it’s so funny what girls can get away with. I mean, can you imagine if a guy attempted to go around and bite the nipples of 10 girls during his bachelor party? It’s really funny to imagine it, but not too realistic, right? But that’s what makes the difference between the sexes so much fun.

Another big difference between men and women when they go out at night is their different mindset. Here’s a basic assumption that a lot of people have when they go out on a Friday night: every guy would have sex with any woman if she allowed him the opportunity.

Leave a comment and tell me what you think of that assumption. Every guy would have sex with any woman if she allowed him the opportunity. Now I’m not saying that YOU personally fall into that category, but a lot of us do make this assumption about men and women. So what happens is that a lot of single men go around at night with the assumption, “Yes, if there were no strings attached, I would sleep with nearly any woman in here.” And a lot of women walk around with the assumption, “Every guy in here would have sex with me if I gave him the green light.”

One of the bachelorette party girls, a doctor, told me with total confidence, “When I go out at night, I know I could get the hottest guy in the place if I wanted to.” It sounds cocky and a bit immature at first, but when you think about it, that’s a very powerful mindset to have. In fact I think it’s a great mindset to have when you know what you’re looking for. It allows you to be the selector. It allows you to avoid making bad choices and avoid seeking validation from other people.

So today’s message is for both men and women: when you go out tonight, remember to always keep your power. Think a bit about what you’re looking for in the opposite sex and don’t give your power away.

If you’re a woman, you have to give yourself that strong mindset and be the selector. Keep your power. The reality is that there are thousands of men out there right now who would love to be with you, who would love to be in a relationship with you, have sex with you, and everything else. Believe it because it’s true. If you meet a cute guy who you actually like, don’t slut yourself out just to get approval from that guy. Don’t make out with him right away just because you think he wants to. Don’t go home with him just because he says, “Let’s go to my place.” If you want to sleep with him, if you’re feeling horny at the moment, then go for it. Otherwise save it up. Think of the thousands of guys out there who would love to be in that guy’s position and to be with you. Don’t play hard-to-get either. Be straightforward and tell him that you think he’s really cute, that you would love to go home with him, but you’re just not ready for that right now, and you’re really excited to see him soon.

If you’re a guy, you have to stop believing that you would have sex with all of these women if no strings were attached, or so you can tell your friends, or if nobody found out, or whatever. Because deep down inside, do you really just want to have sex with a bunch of women? Or do you want to have amazing sex with a wonderful person tonight and all the nights to come? Don’t you really want to be the selector and not the selected? As long as you continue to see yourself as this walking penis who would put himself inside of any woman at the drop of a dime, you will remain the selected. If you want to be the selector, you have to live your life as the selector. You have to set standards for yourself, and really believe that when you go out tonight to meet new people, you are looking for that special woman who will really blow your mind—along with everything else.