OK, I have been reading all the posts about when to have sex and I just got off the phone with a good buddy of mine and here is the conversation that we had. All of his quotes are in italics.

“David, this is a great topic, but what’s the real point? Isn’t about whether the relationship will last or not? And the answer to that has little if nothing to do with whether you sleep with your date on the first night or weeks, months or even years later (Hard to imagine huh?).

The real issue is compatibility!”

My buddy helps take products to market, and about two years ago he was in a relationship that was on one week and off the next. He was totally in love this woman and wanted to marry her. BTW, they had sex on their second date.

But two years into the relationship they finally ended it when they both “accepted” that sex was not fulfilling for either of them.

“We had a great relationship, liked similar things, laughed and danced and talked easily with each other. I even read books, studied tantra… essentially looked for a way to make it work.

Then one weekend I was at a seminar and met the founder of MatchMatrix. He did a compatibility profile on me and my ex-partner. I didn’t like what he told me, because he was spot on. He said you guys get along great but your dying from malnourishment sexually… and he told me I was the one keeping us together and that she wanted to look elsewhere. He was so right, I didn’t want to hear any more.

Then he asked me to help him launch his new website. I said OK, but warned him I was going to break his system. Remember, I didn’t like what he told me. I had to make him wrong so I wouldn’t feel like I wasted 2 years of my life!”

8 months later and after interviewing hundreds of couples, not once did I find the MatchMatrix reports to be wrong, even a little!

So I went from knowing that my ex and I were not meeting each others needs, to understanding totally why. That allowed us to split up and remain friends, and not make one person wrong for our relationship not working.

The best part is I got clear who I should be with, and better than that, I could find out if the person I was dating had real potential before we invested time, money and our hearts into a relationship.”

I can totally vouch for my buddy on the last part. We have run MatchMatrix reports on my own past relationships and also on woman I was interested in. Dead on accurate every time. As for my buddy, he is the best testimonial of them all. When he decided could wait for a woman who was totally compatible for him, one showed up. As he puts it

“There is nothing, I mean nothing like being in a relationship that is energetically aligned… compatible in communication, activities, money and sex… Talk about being met, wow.

In past relationships I had to try so hard to make it work. It takes zero effort to know that anything is possible now, including getting through differences of opinions.

So David, it doesn’t make a bit of difference if you have sex within 10 minutes of when you first meet or months later. If you are compatible, sex will just get better and better and better! If you’re not compatible, that’s when everyone else looks for some excuse, like too soon or not soon enough.

Sorry to burst everybody’s bubble, including all the sex theorist out there. Great sex that last comes from a relationship of true compatibility. MatchMatrix is the only source I have seen that can accurately answer that question.”

I have been looking at MatchMAtrix for over a year. I tend to agree. But, don’t rely on my opinion. Go find out for yourself.