I Think Verizon Has It Right

Keegan

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

And like Verizon, there is a lot of static, I think we should make these podcasts like AT&T! Joking aside, another great podcast besides the mad white noise.

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James

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Wayyy too much sound interference/feedback. The message was good (as always), but sometimes the amateur production on these podcasts ruins them.

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Clint

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

That a very nice podcast with Larry but i kept on hearing lot of static noises which was kind of annoying at times.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

good one Keegan:)

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Rick

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I can totally relate to what Larry was saying, this is beyond just picking up women. I noticed a big change in my lifestyle. But the key thing is to implement it, very powerful message today!!!

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Dave

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

How do I reserve a spot to speak with David?

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Lance

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

You not believe this, I kept on turning my phone on and off b/c I thought it was me, but after reading the comments I figure it was your end. I def. get a lot of milage from this Wednesday podcast.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Rick- What has changed in your life from the past?

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Rick

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Great question Jacob. I think it would be my energy, being more open to women, and also being able to communicate with women at a higher level.

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yours howe

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Larry- your story is inspiring man!

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yours howe

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

And so is Rick- I look up to you guys man.

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Rick

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Thanks Howe:) You can feel the same energy you know, just keep pushing your limit.

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Collin

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I can really attest to how far a network can get you. My brother's friend's mom got me an interview for my first job, and since then I've been working my network for jobs. Heck, two of the last three jobs I worked, I didn't have an interview at all. I never really developed any official interview skills, but it's worked so far, right?

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Kevin

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Ya know, The smallest things make the biggest difference in life. It's amazing what happens with people once they listen to each other,it's amazing what happens when you get out of your head,it's amazing what happens when you get out of your comfort zone of anything you might be fearing,then once you do,you say to yourself "Why didn't I do this before"?

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I have to tell you something David. You talk and talk and talk and I am starting to really hate you. I can not talk like you i can not think like you and you are pissing me off. My network sucks my life sucks and you suck for making me feel this way.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Kevin You did not do this before because your ego was protecting you. Thats why. All of this is very simple but the first step is belief and letting go of the ego that protects from the unknown.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Kevin Now take this one step further. Do you keep in touch with everyone who got you to this point? Do you keep them updated? Do you use facebook to grow your network? And do you talk to at least 5 new people a day?

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail Hater Ok you may have the most original screen name yet.:) I make you feel this way because I am challenging you and bringing you out of your comfort zone. I make you feel uncomfortable and that is the first step for you to really enjoy your life. Why do you hate? What is that i said that makes you hate?

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Dave If you want to speak with me and get some coaching email me. david@davidwygant.com Looking forward to it!

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I hate people who are confident they intimidate me. They make me feel like I am a loser. My network consists of geeks like myself who play video games on line and only dream of being cool with the girls. I am 27 and a virgin and I am just tired of my life. I am bored sad and lonely and have no idea how to create this powerful lfe you describe. Help me

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

and one more thing. i read your blog everyday i hate you in a good way i hate you becuase i cant be you.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I am sad so much of the time. I live in NYC and i have all these people around me and yet I feel that i just cant relate to any of them.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I also wish I could get laid. I want to be able to feel a woman touch a woman. My friends bought me a whore for my birthday and I actually started to cry when she touched me. We spent the rest of the hour talking and all she did was hold me. How pathetic am I i cant even fuck a whore.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail Hater- You are comparing yourself to someone confident. You still carrying jealous feeling within you. If someone is confident, learn their success pattern there is no need to feel bad about it. I would recommend you read the past couple blogs which i think David talks about how to not compare yourself to others.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail- You can't ever be David. Only David can be David. But the most important thing is to be the best version of you, not David.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Well its not too bad that you didn't fuck the whore. You need to go out and get yourself a real woman who is going to fuck your minds off b/c of the amazing connection you have with her!!! I have a feeling you are home alone too much, are you going out and applying what you are learning from the blog?

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Jimmy

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail hater- I think David and Jacob has give you some great advice here. And I would never fuck a whore, i would rather cry with her, b/c its more safer:)

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Thanks Jacob But how do i become a powerful version of me when me sucks?

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Iget it Jacob that i cant be david tell me something taht I dont know and not something so airy fairy as david says and roudn about.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jimmy If you were me you would fuck a whore no women like me.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jacob I am appyling what I learn from the blog but I am stuck in slow motion. I want results I need change and I am so stuck.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jacob I am also tired of masturbation. Thats all i seem to do all the time.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe nail hater- If you keep on complaining this sucks life sucks people suck, it will not get better. What you focus on life is what you will exactly get. If you feel like complaining all the time, thats the energy you will vibrate, and people wont want to hang around with you b/c of that negative energy.

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Jimmy

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe nail- why do you want to fuck a whore?

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Ok I see your point but how do i flip that switch in my head.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jimmy I thought it was the only way i could get laid. No normal pretty girl likes me

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jacob I agree I am very negative. My mom was like this.

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MM

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

You could really have used the "Can you hear me now?" guy for the sound quality of your podcast today :)

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail Hater- I have lot of patience dealing with people, the closest thing I have dealt with was a close friend of mine who was going to give up on life b/c he couldn't attract women he always desired. You are saying you are not good enough b/c he can't get laid? Do you see how insane that belief of yours....

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jacob You still there or are you like everyone else in my life who disapoint me?

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Ok so I have insane beliefs but do you have any idea what it is like to be a chronic masturbator and a vigin?

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail Hater- You are captivating me pretty good today:) And I'm not leaving you today until you realize that you are better than you think you are!

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I have no idea what means to be a chronic masturbator and a virgin. But I tell you this you you need accept yourself more.

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Jimmy

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe nail hater- how many times do you masturbate a day?

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Horny Lisa

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I will suck the toe nails right off your toes toe nail hater:) I feel for you my virgin friend and these guys are really cool and will help you but you need to lose the damm pity party!

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Tell me what is it like to be a chronic masturbator and a virgin Toe nail hater?

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Good to have you back Lisa. Very good timing!

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

MM SOmetimes the phone lines are not great when recording and hey its a free podcast:) Did you enjoy the message?

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Lisa I knew masturbation would pull you out:)

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Horny Lisa

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Thats me the Queen of wanking my self to orgasmic frenzy. I should have been a guy!

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jimmy 6 times a day is that bad?

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

And i am so desperate that I even have a penis pump that I use.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

And a blow up doll that i have fucked.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I was thinking or ordering one of those fake lifelike women to have sex with. This is my life.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail: You really gotta go easy with masturbation. I am not telling you to stop. We are man and its something we all do but 6 times is a lot dude!

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I used to masturbate 10 times a day. So I am slowing down.

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Collin

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

TNH, how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! Sure it's a dumb joke, but it's deeply profound too. How do you become a confident ladies man? One step at a time. Maybe for the next week or two you focus very hard on puffing your chest out and not looking down when you walk, as well as taking up a little too much room when you sit. Then after some time, you focus on still doing those, but also making and maintaining eye contact with people. When you make eye contact, smile at them. Practice looking for things that you could use to talk about with other people. I didn't jump right into talking to strangers. I spent time just looking for things that I could use if I were going to. Eventually you'll get comfortable with this if you practice it enough. You have to be okay with incremental change. If you can't maintain eye contact with anybody except for one old guy on the street, that's an improvement over none. Vow the next day to make eye contact AND smile at somebody. Then vow to do it with at least two the next day, and so on and so forth. Before you know it, you'll be doing stuff like holding your chest high, making eye contact, and smiling without even trying very hard. Then you take it to the next step and start a conversation with someone. It doesn't even have to be a girl. Start a conversation with the guy behind you at Starbuck's because you want to know what's good there other than the black coffee that you normally get, or whatever. Get to the point where you're comfortable talking to both guys and girls. Then you start asking women for their phone numbers after the end of interesting conversations. So what if you get turned down? You're just trying to get comfortable with asking for their number anyways. See where I'm going with this? You have to start small, take it one step at a time, and in time you'll be the kind of person you want to be.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail- you are a funny guy. why do you need the dolls? save up money and get one of the product to change your life.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail Wow save your money and Ill have Jacob come out and work with you for 10 days and change your life. Do not order that doll that is so wrong. It reminds me of this weird movie that i saw. Will look up the clip and post.

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Jimmy

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Wait hold on you used to masturbate 10 times a day oh my God, do you still have your penis?

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Jimmy

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

You sure it didn't fall off:)

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Collin Great advice and thanks for taking the time to write that. Did you do this for yourself?

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jimmy I am sure he still has his penis....wiseass.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Collin Thanks for that. Are you someone who was like me? Were you as scared as I am right now?

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

This was the movie and it was weird Lars and The Real Girl

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Actually this is a better trailer of the movie.

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

One more this is a really twisted movie. And toe nail please watch this movie and do not even think of this.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jacob How can i call you about coaching? You guys really helped me today and I am really sorry for being such a wet sponge. I actually saw this movie that's how i got the idea. I wanted my own Bianca!

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe Nail hater- You are very welcome man, no worries!

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Looking forward to work with you email me jacob@davidwygant.com

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

You don't a Bianca, you need to find your real self.

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Jimmy

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Toe nail hater- how do you think Bianca will solve your problems? She will just lay there and fuck you thats all. Life is more than just some pussy laying out for you to fuck man.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Thanks David Collin and Jacob. You guys made me feel better.Ill email you Jacob

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Glad to hear that you feel better.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Thanks and I mean that. I trust you guys a lot.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Ya shoot me an email we will take it from there ok.

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Toe Nail Hater

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Ok

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Collin

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

To answer your question David, I did it myself, but you gave me the tools. You're welcome TNH. I wasn't exactly like you, but I was close enough. I tried everything I could on my own and it didn't work because I didn't believe in myself. I didn't see myself as valuable. My first kiss was at 17, not because I found a girl who wanted to kiss me, but because a coworker found another coworker who would kiss me for $5. When I got to college, I assumed it would be different because I was in college. Nope. It was still the same. I desperately wanted to be one of those guys who people (not just women) flocked to, but I couldn't figure out how they did it. By chance I found David's youtube videos, and for like a week straight, I sat and watched them before I went to bed. I was routinely staying up until 5 or 7 in the morning because I was thinking about way too much to sleep. I started trying the stuff out that I had learned, and lo and behold, it worked! I started to think that maybe it wasn't me who was flawed, but just my way of going about interacting with people that I had developed. It built my confidence, which in turn drew people to me more, which built up my confidence, and on and on and on (like a vicious circle, but more positive than the connotation would imply). You better bet that these changes help more than just my dating life out too. So am I "there" yet? Are women begging me to make love to them every night? No. I'm in process though, and I'm quite a bit better off than I was even a couple months ago. I don't see a pitiful little me when I close my eyes anymore. When I close my eyes, I see Frank Martin from The Transporter. Am I still 145 lb. 5'10" Collin the college student with a bike for transportation? Absolutely. Nothing on the outside has changed. I'm different though because I see myself differently, and when in doubt in a situation, I think to myself, "What would Frank do?" Hahaha. Do you remember the scene in National Treasure where Nicolas Cage looks at the map with the old spectacles and every time he flips down another set of lenses, he sees the map differently? That's what self improvement, step by step, does. With each step you flip down another lens and see more of yourself that you couldn't see before. Right now all you see is the blank back of the Constitution. There's a treasure map just waiting to be unveiled though. All you have to do is get people like Jacob and David to help you find the spectacles. Sorry this is so long, but I'm a writer and when I get going, I just get going. Hahaha.

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Dave

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I wanted to share with you guys how PUA talk about women, check out the following message. "I love shopping mall game...I am trying to find the best one, I live near Arundel Mills(too many kids)...but yesterday... I went to Pentagon City, I was suprised all the 8s and 9s I saw...with 3 or 4 10's sprinkled in... I'm thinking I need to run a little game at Tyson's corner...ESPECIALLY tyson's corner 2... Once I get into better shape, I'm going to try to run dressing room game...basically stuff that involves me being shirtless(coming out of the dressing room that way or leaving the door open) and trying to pull kiss closes in dressing rooms anyone ever try shit like that? any thoughts suggestions on mall game?"

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Dave

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

LMFAO these guys are crazy, hope you all get a laugh out of it.

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Mats

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

To toenail, Think about how picky you perhaps are! I was a virgin untill I was twenty one. Now 8 years and a 5yr lasting(but ended) great relationship further... I realize how damn picky I am with women, and how many women I unconsciously turned down. I mean i'd have girls tell me 'I'll take you home with me tonight' and I wouldn't react. The truth is, I wasn't really interested in losin gmy own virginity in a one night stand. I found someone I knew for pretty long, really trusted a lot, and when we slept together, it was failed, hilarious, and one of the nicest and sweetest moments of my life. I realize I was waiting for an opportunity to do it like this, do it well. I realized that all the time when I felt powerless, I was actually turning people down, I actually was very powerful by not sleeping with persons I din't REALLY want to be close with. Similarly I had the same questions about masturbation. Afterwords I found that masturbation is better sex then sex with the wrong person. It just doesn't work if the connection isn't right. And if the connection is right, you don't need to worry about experience. If the connection is +, the sex is ++.

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Dave

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

here is another one for you guys..... One PUA ask another one about what is AU pairs women? Another pua answers back with the following "it's basically a foreign girl who comes to the state to be a live in nanny for some rich folks and get fucked. They are usually of European descent and enjoy anal." LOL

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Dave Pua lingo is hilarious. Can you imagine women talking like that, it would sound like this OMG I think i run some sports bar game tomorrow night want to be a BFF and hang LOL it will be great we can approach a drunk top and use the shot glass technique on the hottie. Can you imagine that shit or what:)

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Mats I always say masturbation is better than bad sex with the wrong partner and a lot safer:)

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Dave

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

David- hahhaha now that would be crazy to see a woman really talk like that. If that day comes, i hope i die before that.

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I have actually met a female pua who spoke like a guy pua. She was the only woman I've ever met who was into pickup, and she also spoke with pickup lingo. I thought she was out of her mind:)

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Dave- those comments earlier are just hysterical nice share!

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Dave

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

I can't believe that Jacob, you actually met one of those girls.

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Tony

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

What can young guys do when all we want is just pump and dump everything that moves? Its kind of hard to just masturbate about the same picture everyday. Isn't it a lot better to feel a real woman.

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Tony

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Is it normal to think about sex everyday? Is porn bad for my sex life?

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Dave

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Tony- you are funny man. How many times do you think about sex everyday????

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Tony we are men we always think about sex its how we are wired

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David Wygant

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Dave Jacob meets all kind of strange women he never shuts up and he talks to everyone. I thunk i taught him way too much!!

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Dave

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

David: Thats pretty funny, now that he has risen i don't think any strange women can make him shutup unless some female pua steals his heart:)

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Dave

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Jacob- you have to teach me your secrets someday, i will do anything.

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Tony

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Thats comporting to hear that. So watching porn will not effect my conversation with women?

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Tony

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Its nice to have the coaches watching over us here. Thank you guys!

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Coach Jacob

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Dave- i will run 100mph if i see another female pua.

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Drew

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Mr. Wygant I just wanted to thank you for encouraging me to kick my own ass. I sent you an email about being a changing teen, and so I also wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking some time to answer it. I have a question if someone doesn't mind answering. Say I'm friends with a girl. How do I know if she looks at me like a type of brother or a potential boyfriend?

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Matrix

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

It's kind of interesting, going into college I thought my "education" would really propel me in life but it turns out that the most valuable thing i attained was not the education but the network I created. Connections mean everything in life

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Gerardo Saldana

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Wow, lots of great info tonight, both on the blog and on the comments. Hi everyone, my name is Gerardo, and while I usually watch from the sidelines of the blog, I thought it would be fun to jump into the field today and be part of the game ^^. Ok, for my first shot, this one is for you TNH :). Its going to be long, but I'll try to make it fun ;) TNH, you said you are a gamer, right? Ever stopped to realize that life is the ultimate game? (Personally I think of it as my favorite MMORPG, but I'll let you choose whatever genre you want it to be ;). Now, if you were to be a character in a game, think about the kind of person you would be (and don't yell fire mage just yet!). Think about the kind of physical abilities you would like to have, the knowledge you would like to posses, the technical and social skills you would need, your mission in the game, the type of people you would like to play along with, the type of empire you want to build/defend, etc. Make it as exciting as you can!! :D Now, when you are thinking about all of this, be specific about it! Example: If you first though "I want to be in good physical shape", elaborate further into something like "I want to be able to run a mile in under 6 minutes" or "I want to be able to break dance for 2 hours and not get tired" or "I want to be able to jump a parkour/hike a mountain/run a marathon/ be a martial arts master/ have sex for 6 continuous hours/ have the strength to carry 2 girls on each arm, etc.". In order to create the type of reality you want for yourself, you need to be specific about what you want. Then, go on and make a series of attainable goals for you to get there, and work on specific small steps every day (very much like what Collin advised). Like Wygant said in his mastery series, "go to the batting cages everyday to practice" (a.k.a. "grinding and power level!") ;) And yes, you should go and get coaching advise from these guys, they are phenomenal and they will be able to help you. But above all, make life fun and exciting! :D ~ Gerardo PS. Wygant, you need to give us Coach Jacob's number. I promise we'll help him get harrased, I mean, "picked up" by PUA girls ;D!

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Gerardo Saldana

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

wow... good lord thats a lot of smileys! 0_0 ...

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Collin

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Gerardo, don't forget that there are a ton of really hot chicks at places like Comicon who love video games. I might not understand it, but it's true.

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Coach Jacob

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Drew- I will drop few things here for you, its hard to answer it all in the blog. However, you sound like you are in a doubt mode. You are thinking, and usually when we think too much, we screw it up, and not flow from our true self. It all comes down to creating a great momentum with her, if you keep on doing the same thing everyday, same activities, same conversations, and you stay distant when you two hangout, it will not go anywhere. What you want to focus on is creating a mental connection with her, and asking her to fun dates.

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Coach Jacob

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

That's it for now, i don't want to overload you with informations Drew.

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Coach Jacob

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Gerardo Saldana, Good to have you abroad man. We don't mind the smiles at all, so keep em coming.

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Coach Jacob

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Gerardo- Forgot to mentions great comments to Toe Nail hater. Wygant- dont' give Gerardo my number:) Since you love smilies man, here some extra ones for you for jumping into the field :) :) :) :) :) :)

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Coach Jacob

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Toe Nail Hater- I hope our message get across to you man!

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Coach Jacob

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Matrix- that was very well said, I had the same realization. My degree doesn't mean anything to what I'm doing now. What helped me the most is self education and experiencing life and learning from my mistakes.

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Kevin

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

ToeNailHater, I totally know where your coming from,I know what it's like to be 27 and feel life you have no life,I also know what it's like to masturbate 6 times a day. Yes I've been in the "online games" trap. How did I come it? How did I get out of that "comfort zone" of staying in the house and play games for 18 hours a day? Hopefully you can get a little inspiration out of my story or at least someone can. Before I heard about David,I was walking through Macy's and saw some really nice dress pants.I walked over and felt them, I said "Wow these are nice!" and looked at the price tag and saw they were $125.00!! I was like Oh god,that's crazy" So I walked away thinking "Why don't I dress better"? The over sized ugly t-shirt and the relaxed fit jeans that were 10 years old wasn't doing anything for me,not for my self esteem,not for my image and certianly not for women. So I started researching and discovered fashion to be kinda fun,Anyway I learned how to dress and groom myself.So What you might say? It was a big deal because I was taking the first step from what I wasn't used to doing. Then I started getting into what David had to say. I must have watched his Youtube videos a 100 times and reading his articles but eventually I had to start applying what I learned. I remember my very first approach,I wasn't attracted to her but I had to say something,cause something is better than what I've always said,and that was nothing. It was around 9pm and I was in the supermarket and this girl had 2 pints of ice cream in her hand and still looking through the rest of them. I said "Oh decisions,decisions,decisions... She turned around and her mouth went from 0-60mph in 2.3 seconds.. I was soo excited that I said something!! Then I learned to walk and move cause I used to always walk hunched over,Then I started talking to women in other stores and every time I say something, They look at me,smile and giggle. Some walk away laughing but that's ok, Why? Cause I at least said something.It gets easier and easier and now it's a piece of cake,I'll walk up to anybody,I don't care.What are they going to do? Beat me up if I talk to them? Yes, I still have things to work on (I'm hitting the eject button sometimes after my opener,I'm still not comfortable asking for numbers 100% of the time and when I do I'm not present,I still need to work on going deeper into a conversation,ect... But I have made amazing progress in only a few months. You don't have to keep on doing what your doing forever,You having to work on yourself,you have to want to change.I wanted to change,I needed to change if I didn't,I'd be the poster child for the 40 year old virgin,The more you work on yourself it won't be a question of if you'll ever get laid,but when.

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Drew

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Thanks, Jacob. I just have to continue improving myself. There must be something there, or she wouldn't talk to me and say she loves me. Right?

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Collin

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Drew, I don't know your entire situation, but in my experience if a girl says she loves you, she loves you as a friend. Girls very very very rarely reveal feelings like that if you two aren't dating. Sadly, I have no solid insight on how to turn a friend into a girlfriend, but I wish you the best.

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Gerardo Saldana

Friday, January 29th, 2010

Collin: True that man! :) There are pretty girls everywhere! :D I take it you got to comicon and a few other events? Been thinking about cosplaying as Johny Bravo and taking pictures with every single girl at the next AX B) Kevin: Good story :) You are absolutely right, if you practice something continuously you will get good at it (fashion, talking to girls, etc). The power to approach any person and build an instant connection is perhaps one of the greatest abilities we can develop as people (e.g. Bill Clinton). I mean, most of our friendships happened that way, we meet someone and connected with them. So this power would give you the ability to instantly start any kind of relationship you want with most of the people you meet if not all. Jacob: Thanks for the welcoming man :). Since I'm new here, I don't fully expect Wygant to help me out with the prank... but there is a long time between now and April 1st to convince him ;)

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Collin

Friday, January 29th, 2010

G: Honestly I have almost no interest in video games (though UFC Unleashed is pretty fun). I just know lots of people who go to DragonCon every year, and there are inevitably lots of pictures that pop up on Facebook of them with very attractive women. One thing about conventions is that if you go to one for something you really enjoy, you'll be around tons of women who you'll never see again, but who are likely to be the kind of woman you would want to date. You can try out more approaches in a night at a convention than you could ever try at the hottest club.

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Drew

Friday, January 29th, 2010

Collin, I know she means it like that, but it's a start. And she is attracted to me to some extent.

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Collin

Friday, January 29th, 2010

It's a start in the sense that you know her, but you got sent down to her minor league. Before you even get a chance to bat, you have to prove that you're major league material. You'd probably be better off just meeting her actually. Girls like the boys who make their hearts go pitter-patter, and if you're very close friends, you're going to have to REALLY make her heart pitter-patter before she'll look at you romantically. Why? She's got you in her friendship file, and girls don't move guys up to the "datable" file very often. You're like a brother to her. Even in rural Georgia we know not to date our relatives. It could happen, but I very much doubt it will. The cards are just stacked against you. Maybe David has some tips, but I really suggest finding some other girls to at least casually date. The practice you get with them can then be applied to the female friend. Who knows? You might even meet someone you like better than her.

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