For those of you who have never been to London, I strongly suggest you put it on the top of your travel plans. It really is my favorite city. I rented a few flats in Notting Hill for the weeklong program and I think this is the way to roll. I was always a Hotel person, but I like having a home when I am traveling.

So lets talk today about leaning.

Have you ever been to a party where the music is so loud that you can’t even hear yourself talk, and you wonder “How do I talk to somebody when everything is so loud? Do I scream at them, or do I just stand there in the corner and not say a word? What do I do in this situation?”

It’s very simple. Use the power of “the lean-in.”

When talking to a woman at a party or a loud bar, lean in, touch her shoulder very gently, and then speak into her ear so she can hear you. Then pull back. Now you allow her to do the same thing. If she follows your lead, then attraction is going to start to build.

So keep the process of a lean-in going. By leaning in directly into someone’s ear, you’re creating sexual tension. The ear is extremely sensual.

Have you ever kissed a woman’s ear and watched her squirm? While having sex, have you ever looked directly in her eyes during that intense moment, kissed her, then whispered in her ear exactly what you want to do to her? No wonder at that moment she starts to climax like a maniac.

You can create that moment right from the beginning. Everything in life is about the subconscious.

Recently I was at a party where the music was so loud that I couldn’t hear what I was thinking. I walked over to this woman in the corner who had been staring at me, and I used the lean-in. Every time I did it, I would pull back afterwards. Every time she did it to me, she was either touching her hair or touching her stomach. She probably didn’t realize she was doing this. She was touching herself without probably realizing because words in her ear brought her back to some intimate moment in her subconscious mind.

It’s really not hard turning someone on . . . it’s just understanding how people are wired. The power of the lean-in is such a powerful connection between two people. You’re creating intimacy without having to say it.

A lot of men think that they have to whisper in a woman’s ear things like “I want to do you tonight” or “I want to lick you from head to toe like a popsicle at Coney Island.” In truth, just talking to a woman (i.e., having an interesting conversation and paying attention to what she’s saying), then speaking those words in her ear, will create powerful sexual tension without having to say anything cheesy.

The next time you’re at a party or a bar and a woman is checking you out, walk over to her with confidence, lean in, and speak right into her ear. Don’t scream in her ear and break her eardrum . . . just talk. The confident man – the ones who have adapted all the principles that I speak about in all my programs – will know exactly what to do at this point.

Turning a woman on is as simple as knowing trigger points. The lean-in is a powerful trigger point in creating sexual chemistry. Oh, and by the way ladies, use the lean-in on men and it works the same way.

I’ve spent my whole life learning to understand human behavior. The lean-in technique is one of my favorites. Lean in, listen, pull back, and watch their reaction! You’re in for some serious sexual tension.

The question is, do you know what to do next? We’ll talk about that another day. By the way, for those of you who want to see some good examples of this, rent “Oceans 11” and watch George Clooney use the lean-in.