How to Speak Man

Dear David,

I’m sure you’ve written about this before but you need to help me understand what’s going on with this man.

I’m 45. The man I’ve met is 51.

He’s got a few kids. I’ve got a few kids. They’re mostly grown up.

I really want the relationship. He just seems to want a weekend thing.

I don’t know. How much longer should I give him? I know eventually he’s going to turn around, but how much of my time should I give him? He always tells me that he doesn’t want anything serious, but I do. How can I change his mind?

Sincerely,

Amy

. . .

You’ve got to learn how to speak Man.

You see, men are very simple; women are complicated.

We tell you that we only want a weekend thing. You think that you can change our minds.

You talked about it with your friends. Your friends will say, “He’ll come around in time. Just keep doing the things you’re doing.”

But we don’t come around. If we tell you we want a weekend thing, if we tell you we want a one-night-a-week thing, if we tell you we’re not looking for a relationship, we tell you that because we mean it.

You need to listen.

We tell you right from the get-go, what we do and don’t want.

We tell you that we don’t want kids and you think we’re going to want kids once we get to know you better.

Women do this all the time. They constantly thing they can change a man.

You constantly think you’re able to change him just because you’re wonderful, warm, sweet, and fantastic.
But you’re not going to.

We’re so black and white. We tell you what we want. We tell you what we desire. Just listen to it and go with it. If you do that then you won’t be disappointed when it doesn’t work out.

It’s that simple, ladies.

Just listen.