The First Kiss by David Wygant

Today I decided to do a different type of blog: I wanted to interview a woman who I find absolutely and incredibly sexy, someone I’ve known intimately, and I wanted to share with you some of her knowledge.

A lot of you will definitely learn a lot about what it is like to please a woman – what women are really looking for.

Some of you know her from the back of the blog as “Officer Naughty.” I know her as a couple of other names – Officer Naughty is not one of them!

I’m going to interview her right now, and we’re going to have a little bit of fun. I’m going to ask her five key questions in order for you to go out and really turn a woman on sexually.

So the first question I have for you, Miss Naughty, is this: a lot of guys want to know when to go in for the first kiss. They are on a date, and they want to know when to go in for the first kiss. How would you describe a really perfect first kiss – timing and everything?

Officer Naughty: Well, the timing for the first kiss really depends on the comfort level – it might be your first date, it might be the beginning of the date or at the end.

For me, if I’m on a date with you then I’m probably pretty damn attracted to you (I probably wouldn’t go otherwise,) and so you need to take your cues from the buildup. If you have already led up to the kiss through flirting – we’ll give you cues to let you know we are interested in kissing you.

David: What are some of the clues?

Officer Naughty: We will touch you – we will laugh and either slap your shoulder or put our hand on your leg, or a lot of eye contact with smiles, flirtatious smiles.

I know I have this particular look that I’ll give you – I’ll look down, and then straight into your eyes, and then I will raise one of my eyebrows a little bit – that’s my “seductive look.”

David: And when a woman is doing that, being playful and touching, the guy has to be playful and touching back otherwise the sexual tension is not going to escalate, right?

Officer Naughty: Absolutely – if he doesn’t, then I would assume that he’s not interested.

David: That’s a key thing. A lot of guys don’t know when to escalate sexually. Really the women are giving the clues the whole time.

What a lot of guys don’t realize is that they don’t pick up on it because they are too busy worrying about it instead of paying attention to what she is saying. By listening to her directly, and flirting with her, the sexual tension will start to rise.
Officer Naughty: I know that I start laughing more at what a guy says, paying more attention and asking more questions – if I’m putting on lipstick and doing my hair, that means I want to look good.

If I’m looking around the room, and I’m bored and yawning, then I’m probably not interested. That would be a cue to NOT move in for the kiss.

David: So now we’ve gone in for the kiss: what does that first kiss have to be like? What turns you on, and what turns you off about that first kiss?

That first kiss is all about getting further with you – so tell me what is the big turn-on?

Officer Naughty: Honestly, number one is that you have to have good breath! If you have bad breath, it doesn’t matter how much I’m attracted to you, how great of a kisser you are – immediately I’m just like, “eew,” and grossed out.

You don’t want it to taste someone else’s salmon from the day if you don’t eat fish – it’s disgusting! Or coffee breath, or if you smoke – just make sure that you have good breath, that’s the first thing!

The second thing is to have soft lips. A lot of guys need to get some lip moisturizer, some Chapstick – I’m serious! It’s really not nice to kiss somebody with cracked lips!

As far as the skills – go slow! Don’t try to be “lizard man.” When a guy sticks his tongue down your throat and moves it around really fast – it’s disgusting. Definitely take your time; you don’t need to use a whole lot of tongue.

Maybe keep the first kiss to ten seconds, and then look at me again, and say something like, “that was really nice!” and then give me another little kiss – a follow-up kiss.

David: Okay, so now you’ve had the kisses, you’ve had a good date, let’s say you’ve gone out on a few dates now, and the guy wants to escalate this to intimacy. He wants to create some intimacy with you.

What’s the best way to seduce a woman?

Officer Naughty: Be romantic! Honestly, that usually works the best. How to do that? For me, create an environment that is conducive to romance: candles, music, a fire in the fireplace, wine – I love it when a guy asks me “do you want to come up for some wine?”

Make sure your place looks and smells good – if you’re going to take her to your bedroom, make sure it doesn’t have clothes all over the place, make sure your sheets are clean. Make sure there aren’t any other girls’ clothes there – panties on the bed!

Make sure your bathroom isn’t disgusting – these sorts of things are major turn-offs for me for the first time. Once you get to know them better, of course, you can slack off a bit, but in the beginning these things are important.

I think the sexual intimacy will come naturally if you start making out. I know some people have rules about how long they are going to wait until they have sex, so just take your time. Don’t rush it, and make the woman feel like you are really interested in her for more than just sex.

The more comfortable she feels (and generally comfort comes from her trusting you, feeling like you care to hear what she has to say and not just to get in her pants) the more likely you are to get in her pants!

David: So let’s say you’re in the middle of a heavy make-out session on the couch, and all of the sudden the guy finally gets up the nerve and say, “let’s go to the bedroom and get more comfortable,” and the woman agrees, what is the best way to seduce her from head to toe so it guarantees that the clothes are going to be ripped off and they will have a wonderful night of sex?

Officer Naughty: I think the main thing is a lot of kissing. You can kiss her neck, kiss her ears, and hold her hand. I really love it when a guy touches my face when he’s kissing me – that’s a real sign of intimacy.

Don’t go right away for the boobs and the genitals – tease around. I like it when a guy touches underneath my jeans, like an inch down, and teases me for a while – 10 or 15 minutes maybe while he’s kissing me.

Tell her how sexy she is, in a low, manly sort of voice. Talk slowly. Tell her how great she is. Don’t go overboard with the compliments in the beginning, because it might get old after awhile – unless she’s giving them back to you, then that’s fine.

Tell her what you want to do to her – that would get me!

David: Talk dirty to her, but not in a disgusting way.

Officer Naughty: Right – I definitely wouldn’t say, “I want to fuck you…”

David: So instead of saying “I want to fuck you,” what would work for you?

Officer Naughty: “I bet you feel amazing, and I want to be inside you so bad” – something like that.

David: And what about if the guy is going down on you – instead of saying “I want eat your pussy,” – some guys are just so crude…

Officer Naughty: How about, “I want to taste you,” that is probably a little bit better! I don’t think there is anything wrong with the word “eat” but I wouldn’t say “pussy.” But yeah – “I want to taste you,” “I want to savor you,” something like that would definitely work.

David: Something more erotic.

Officer Naughty: Yeah, and sensual. Women like sensuality…

David: And men are cave men!

Officer Naughty: Well not all of them are, luckily!
David: Luckily, some are not.

That’s good – I think that gives guys a little taste of what is to come. In the future, we’re going to have a blog with Officer Naughty about ways to make a woman climax during sex, and also an audio interview with her as well to set up where you can listen to her describe exactly the way women want to feel when a man is inside her and how to get a woman to climax.

But in the meantime, that’s it for today’s post. Hope you enjoy it, and definitely give us some comments – let’s hear what your favorite seduction techniques are.

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