How to Flirt With Her By David Wygant

This is the number one mistake guys make: they think that there is something magical that needs to happen to let a woman know that you are interested in her. What I like to do is just carry on a conversation.

So you’ve gone and started talking to a woman – you’ve opened her up with something – and you start having a conversation just like you would normally with anybody.

You start talking and find bonding moments, you look for the key portal words that we’ve talked about – you look for an emotional talking point in her – something that you can use to take the conversation further.

For example, I was walking down the street tonight, and I saw the yellow sweatshirt girl again, who I’d opened up earlier by talking to her about the price tag. So I said to her, “hey, you’ve got your sweatshirt on again!” and she said, “God, I was cold.”

I asked her why she was so cold, and she said that she was just here for the weekend. So I said, “where are you from?” –She said, “I’m from Vancouver.”

“Vancouver! I love Vancouver!” I said, “I lived in Seattle for a few years, and Vancouver is one of my favorite cities,” and then we were able to start talking about Vancouver, and where she was from, and so forth. At that point, she didn’t move – she knew I was interested in her.

How did she know I was interested? I was asking her questions. I wasn’t asking her boring, small-talk questions about the weather, I was asking her personal questions about things that she had said, and I was paraphrasing her when I went back and talked to her – meaning, when a woman says, “I’m from Vancouver,” I say, “Wow, I love Vancouver, how long have you been living in Vancouver?”

Paraphrasing is using her terminology. If she says, “I’m just here for the weekend,” then I say, “what made you come down to LA for the weekend?” and she tells you, “I came here because there was an art show.” You respond, “what type of art do you like?” or “what type of art show did you come for?”

Then she’ll start talking to you, and talking about things, and she will know that you’re interested in her. In general, women know that when you start asking her a lot of questions about personal things, you are interested.

She also knows you are interested based on your body language towards her – are you excited? Every time you ask her another question, elevate your voice tone a bit – say, “Oh that’s so cool – I always wanted to know about that artist, tell me a little bit more about Dali,” or “tell me a little bit more about Picasso, I’ve never really explored his art.”

“Tell me a little bit more” – and you’re excited about what she’s talking about. This creates attraction in her because she all of a sudden starts thinking that “this guy likes me!” She thinks, “this guy is interested in me, he wants to learn more about me.”

All of a sudden, you are listening and having energy and excitement about what she’s saying, and the next thing you know, you’re flirting with her – that’s what flirting is.

And then you can start teasing her a little bit, you can tease her about, say, living in the rain in Vancouver all the time – whatever bit of information you find out about her that you can use to take the conversation further. That’s how you do it.

Your interest in her will also come across in your body language, in your delivery, in your tonality – maybe even slowing down – showing that romantic, sexual intent. You can be talking about anything really – and if you slow it down and hold intense eye contact, she will then know that you have a clear interest in her – as more than just friends.

I was in this store today, and saw this underwear that said, “Clitosaurus Rex.” Some women were walking by, and while most guys would play it safe and not say anything, I picked them up and said, “Clitosaurus Rex – this is so funny!” Another pair said, “Love My Pussy.” I said to the women, “Love my pussy? I’ve got to get these for the girl I’m dating right now, this is great!”

And by just saying these things that were on the underwear, other people started coming over – other women – and all of a sudden, after just playing with these underwear and t-shirts, I’m walking out of the store and one of the women hit on me! This happened because I was being playful, because I’m not afraid to be playful.

So you can do this to attract a crowd, too – and get a woman to come over and talk to you as well. If you go into a clothing store and they have a lot of goofy hats, just put one on and go over to a woman and say, “excuse me – you’ve gotta tell me how I look in this thing.”

Or if you’re trying on a pair of jeans in a store, you can walk over and say, “how does my butt look in these jeans?” It’s about being playful and immediately you’re flirtatious and getting out of your comfort zone. That’s another thing you need to do too.

It’s great to not be afraid to be bold – show your sexual side. Yesterday I was talking to a girl in Juicy Couture and I asked her why girls like Juicy Couture so much. She started telling me about the sweatpants that started the whole Juicy Couture fad – the ones that say “JUICY” across the butt.

So I was teasing her then, saying, “Thank God for creating Juicy Couture, because now I can get away with checking out girls’ butts!
Or I can just say, I had to look – you have writing on your butt!” And she started laughing.

You can show that you are not afraid of showing your sexual side – a lot of guys are afraid of this, they think, “oh I can’t say that, I’m going to get slapped!” But it’s not true!

Showing your sexual side is very powerful. Many guys don’t do it, so girls really like seeing that. They know that you’re a man who is not afraid of being a man. And that’s really what they want!

Todays video dives deeper into how to flirt with women.

Also all the women of the blog…use this post and flirt with men the same way!