How to be Feminine

I get so many women coming to me, posting comments on my Facebook page, on Twitter, on the blog…

All of them asking the same question:

How do I be feminine?

And it’s kind of scary to get asked that from women.

And here’s the reason why a lot of women don’t know how to tap into their femininity:

They’ve been battling men in a man’s world for so long.

You go back to the ’60s and early ’70s and they were burning bras for equality.

We could talk about the ’80s and the start of the “working woman”, and the ’90s saw women buying real estate, becoming corporate executives and big time lawyers.

It was cool for a woman to be a corporate raider.

Movies like Working Girl presented women in strong, masculine roles, as that being powerful, strong and sexy.

The problem is that the masculine archetype doesn’t work for women in dating.

As a man I want my woman to be feminine, nurturing, loving, sweet.

I don’t want her to have boobs and a penis.

I want her to smell nice.  I want her to dress sexy.  I want her to be able to tap into her femininity.

Her femininity means she’s sweet, she listens, she doesn’t battle me on everything we do.

Very masculine women will battle men on everything.

They get off on the battle.  They’re very masculine women because they’ve had to always take care of themselves.  They’ve got this feeling of me against the world…just like dad taught.

Your dad might have taught you how to survive, but he definitely didn’t teach you how to be feminine and attract men.

We need you to tap into that femininity.

We need you to tap into that on a daily basis.

When we go out on a date with you we don’t want you to challenge us all of the time.

When you constantly contradict and battle us, we see you as a very masculine woman, and that’s not sexy to a masculine man.

Our gender roles are such that a man wants to feel very feminine around a woman.  A male wants to be nurtured by a woman.  Men basically want a woman, not another dude.

So, if you find yourself going out on a lot of first dates that don’t go anywhere think about the way you conduct yourself on those dates.  Are you conducting yourself as a masculine woman on a business meeting or are you conducting yourself as a feminine woman who is inquisitive about the man that you’re sitting across, the man that you want to get to know?

Food for thought.