LoveHow do you find a real man?

Aren’t you tired of all these emotionally unavailable men?

Aren’t you tired of all the men who lie to you time after time?

The men who take you out, have sex with you, and then disappear without a trace?

The men who don’t bother returning your calls?

The men who promise you the world and then let you down?

To kick off your holiday weekend, I’m going to give you a simple way you can pre-qualify men.

The first thing you have to understand is what you really want from a relationship. You need a clear vision in your mind of your perfect relationship. How do you want a man to love you? Could you write it down right now on paper, or would you need to think about it?

As you read this post, I want you to think about exactly how you want a man to love you, how you want your relationship to look, and what your ultimate relationship goals are. Then you need to write down what sort of man you want. Write down what you’re boundaries are, what turns you on, and what you need emotionally from a man.

Make sure it’s coming from your heart and not some template your Mom or Grandma gave you when you were little. Once of the biggest issues for women, and one of the main reasons women struggle to meet “the one” is because they resume date. They try to find a man who fits an exact criteria. He must be blonde, he must be 6 foot, he must have rippling muscles, and he must be lifeguard.

You need to know what sort of qualities you want in a man, but trying to find a man who meets your exact cookie cutter criteria is never going to happen!

Whatever vision your Mom or Grandmother gave you is what has made you a resume dater your whole life. Maybe you went to an IV League School and you had to be with a guy that was an IV Leaguer. Maybe you do well financially and you want a man who will be your financial equal. stop dating men who look good on paper. You need to find a man who is real inside. A real man who knows how to treat you, knows how to love you, and wants to love you on your terms, the way you want to be loved. Forget trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.

So here’s what I want you to do. Ditch your internal list of what a man should be like on paper. Forget physical attributes, forget financial standing, and forget career. It doesn’t matter where’s he’s from or what grades he got at school. The only list you should worry about is the one that tells you what you want from a relationship, and what QUALITIES you want in a man. It’s the QUALITIES not the ATTRIBUTES you should be worrying about.

It’s more about getting to know yourself and your desires. Until you understand what you want, how can you expect to connect with a man?

So, learn about yourself. Understand what you want from a relationship. And only then go looking for a man who can give you what you desire. Then, you’ll have yourself a real man!