How Amazing Are You?

chevon gr

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

great podcast and i have a podcast idea,i think you'll like..how to tell when someone is not interested..and this is funny but how comes when some one pay you no atttention dos not interact with you show's no emotion toward you attract you?i'm not referering to the bad boy i'm refering to disinterested,why does we has human feel hurt when that person dosn't like us,but feel so terible when that person date someone we know isn't right for them?i'm not saying that i'm a nice guy but my friends are,why don't many girls nice nice guys? alot of ideas for podcast

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CT

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

There is everything about you to love! Everything about you in the morning is attractive! Everyone is interested in you! Are you going to let anyone meet you? thanks David!

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Delicia

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

I normally do not respond after listening to a podcast but this one in particular hit close to home!!! This is one of your master pieces David. I put up a front that I am filled with great confidence and yet inside I feel so alone and hollow. I believe that perhaps I haven't come across the right person for me and have settled for less, is that I am attracting negative people because inside that is who I really am...negative. It is time for me to truly appreciate and love the skin I'm in. I have lost weight, keep myself looking attractive and yet inside, I am the same insecure woman I was 85lbs heavier. Thank you for this wake up call David. I want to move forward, love myself more and attract the right person! I guess my podcast idea would be to get out there and get what you want in the dating world. Date fearlessly, smart and aim for a life time!

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chevon gr

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

yeah i was asking why you have to challenge them i mean you thought us how to be ourself and how to interact with our self,what if you are nice guy (PERIOD)i mean and thats who you are but then you end up in the friend zone i mean why do ladies want bad guys who be rough with them and all?i mean come on who wants a person ignoring them or even don't care alot about you?i mean nice guys are the one open in loved with these girls,these are te guys who i believe is confident tehy are not afraid to tell a girl tey liek tehm,not afraid to write a girl poems,i use to be one of the nice guys,the simple buy flowers things..i hated that i haded to change to attract womens i hate that,it's despise my stomach,i'll advocate for all of the nice guys i mean why do's this happen why u have to pull girls eager tesase them?why can't they just accepted a well full developed guy?a guy who has manners who's polite who will treat you as god's who will hug you tight who will hold your hand,?i don't believe that ANYONE would have a problem with looks if people had just accept them for who they are NO ONE WOULD HAVE SUCH problems and besides confidence is all but when you look back at it your still the same everyday just with a liitle bit more knowledge you can't change the past but then again that don't mean u don't have to accept the future.lol i think we deserves a hard podcast from you,u've impact lives send us all a mind blowing podcast,that breaks this down.

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jeff a

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

"My best friends are some of the ugliest people in the world." I hope your best friends don't know about your podcast David lol.

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Nabil

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Amaziiinggg podcast David

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dave310

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Chevron, I could write for days on this topic, but here's my answer to your question: From my observations, nice guys don't seem to challenge women, they don't call them on their bullshit, they tend to always agree (because they want to be liked) and they end up getting walked on by women...or worse, placed in the friend zone. There's no mystery or edge to them, they're too Ritchie Cunnigham when women want a little Fonzie. I know this because I'm a recovering nice guy. Doesn't mean we all have to be Tommy Lee to get women. (Although I think we could all use a little bad boy in our personalities, it serves us well. If you're a nice guy then practice being the bad boy one night, you'll have a blast and you'll learn a lot.) If someone tells me I'm a nice guy, I correct them and say I'm a Good Guy, not a nice guy, there's a difference. (I read this on-line somewhere.) The Good Guy will be loyal and sweet to the woman he's with, but he won't take shit from her, he'll put his foot down and he'll get mad from time to time when it's called for. He definitley won't agree with everything she says. You can be a good guy and still tease her a bit without being scared of how she'll react. I've spent way too much time agreeing with women on stuff I didn't actually agree with. Stupid stuff like "Oh, I loved that book too, it really moved me." If I'm being real about it, there can be a great connection in agreeing with someone, but if I'm just going with the flow, trying not to rock the boat, that won't get me anywhere. I think most women ultimately want a good guy (especially if they're looking for a relationship) they just don't want a push over who's boring and has no edge. As the Good Guy, you have to make sure she sees your animal-side from time to time, the side of you that she would see more of in bed if she slept with you. Bad boys seem to have that side on display 24-7. I say bring it out from time to time, push her buttons a little, say sexual things and see what you can get away with. It's fun. And it will keep you from getting that kiss-of-death label "The Nice Guy".

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dave310

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

And you can still write those love poems, just make sure you're balanced in your approach. (I write cheesy songs for women sometimes.) Watch the movie "Bedazzled" with Brenden Frasier and Elizabeth Hurely, and don't be the super-senstive guy in that movie. (If you've seen it, you'll know the one...the guy on the beech who cries everytime he sees a sunset.) When she does get a poem from you and sees that side of you, you want her to think it's something pretty damn special, not something you probably do after every first date. Sorry I didn't address the podcast at all in my comments. I thought it was great. And please give that guy who thinks he's unlovable an hour of free coaching. He just needs to get out there and build some confidence.

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chevon gr

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

you know i agree with you dave in a certain way,i use to be a nice guy,but now i got the edge and benefit,but inside we all know we care about what that girl think of us,we pretend we don't.if your gonna build trust with anyone you have o care what that persn reacts and thinks of us,why get for (ex) a deep realtionship with smeone then you don't give a zip zap about what that person thinks of us? this makes no sense.how can we as mens act as if we are tough and all bad.Confident is important as i said in again,like deep down we all tends to fall for someone hard at some part in our lfe,we all get caught up in fantasy land once in alifetime.AND tell me what i don't think nice gus has the ability to please a women..think about it if they do, they would have already..so i think ur accusation of nice guys trying to please women and do anything for women is false,in my oppinion nice guys just guys who dought themself over time and look for the opposite sex to make them feel comfortable or attractive.A bad boy on the other hand don't need one's assistance but THEY ALL WANTS a women to like them,i don't care what you are bad boy,ugly boy,monke boy...WE ALL WANT WOMEN i've never seen a straight guy go his entire life without wanting a women.WE ALL WANT WOMEN thats why we are all here.i think nice guys just be nice guys and don't change but still learn how to not let girls step all over them and build attraction..in that way they don't have to developed any attitue such as you bad boy material or situation you speak of and maybe this person will say"OH" I ATTRACTED A GIRL WITH BEING JUST MYSELF "WOW" thats whats important bing confident in your skin being who you without changing,thats way you can accept yourself so others will too ,we need a podcast on this.great podcast david. to -dave

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Cathy J

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Ditto with all of the above Loved the podcast idea and David you have a great voice! The ugly friends comment was not great the first time - then the repeat - I was physically covering my face... Perhaps you didn't quite mean it the way it came out or could have just been reworded - hmmmmm! Loved the good guy versus nice guy comment. I remember back to a guy who was my best friend years ago - we had a blast - we worked together, talked about everything, went motorbike riding, sailing, laughed all the time.... then one day a dozen red roses turned up on my door - I thought "Oh, no..." however perhaps if he had just grabbed me and kissed me I would have looked at him differently - guys are meant to lead! Fortunately for him, after he had risked all with me and been rejected, love opened up for him with the love of his life and they are happily married. I am not suggesting to grab anyone and kiss her, when there has been no signals whatsoever - I have had that happen too and YUK! Guys be bold!!

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chevon gr

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

cathy i agree with guys being bold in fact that really inspire me a bit,if he had just grab you and kiss you but is one sent of rose worth to end your romantly realotionship with HIM..is it worth it?this is funny because i'm thinking you left the guy why?according to you there was chemistry between you guys,the guy seems to be bold to have capture your interested in my view.WHY throw that away over some rose?it's just a rose it's not a ''CATHY I LOVED YOU WILL YOU LOVED ME TOO SIGn>..is it?you ladies want bold guys but i don't think you know what you want if you ever define loved what i think loved is if you don't know i'll tell you love is what that person was trying to express toward u.why not jut accepted it.kiss or no kiss you and him had chemistry.your mind is in your own shoes,isn't it?PERIOD.

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chevon gr

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

cathy i agree with guys being bold in fact that really inspire me a bit,if he had just grab you and kiss you but is one sent of rose worth to end your romantly realotionship with HIM..is it worth it?this is funny because i'm thinking you left the guy why?according to you there was chemistry between you guys,the guy seems to be bold to have capture your interested in my view.WHY throw that away over some rose?it's just a rose it's not a ''CATHY I LOVED YOU WILL YOU LOVED ME TOO SIGn>..is it?you ladies want bold guys but i don't think you know what you want if you ever define loved what i think loved is if you don't know i'll tell you love is what that person was trying to express toward u.why not jut accepted it.kiss or no kiss you and him had chemistry.your mind is in your own shoes,isn't it?PERIOD.

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Cathy J

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

chevon gr - no, we weren't dating at all - I thought he was my best friend. I had never thought of him like that. Of course, years later I wondered about him and when we did bump into each other I thought 'wow' - he had grown up and had more self-confidence. That experience taught me to maybe consider not where people are now but also potential .... It was a growth experience for us both and opened the door to his real life - btw his wife is a dead ringer for 'Sophia Loren!' and she is lovely inside and out. So he did really well!

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Brooksby

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Well said. I'm just in the first month or two of a really wonderful relationship that began the way you council men to begin them. I saw her someplace and instigated a conversation. She loved the attention because it was so different from what she was used to. I wasn't afraid of her. I wasn't "working the friend angle" or any other angle. I was straight forwardly interested in her and made it clear we'd be talking later. She saw something different in me from the very beginning. I was genuine and because of that, she opened up and fell in love with me. Now my point. She loves me so much, but I haven't changed anything about who I was four months ago. Yet four months ago I didn't walk around with the assurance I now feel all the time. Its easy to doubt yourself, focus on just you, and get really critical, but the truth is that if you are seeking to improve yourself as a man. And you really are genuinely seeking to build other people up, then one day you're going to find the woman that feels that way about you. She'll mean more than anything to you. So why not walk around knowing that right now? Why wait for the validation? If you aren't a great person, find ways to improve and set some goals. If a man works toward meaningful goals every day, he'll feel more confident, he'll be happier, and he'll be attractive because he's got control of his life. Knowing who you are and what you're about is the key to a successful and happy life. Good stuff David! Really appreciate your work!

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Bruce B.

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Great podcast David! It hits home for me. We all have great attributes, and while I could tell you several things I love about the way I look, when I look in the mirror I habitually only focus on the couple things I DON'T like and the good things disappear from my mind in an instant. It's a challenge for me not to carry the negative thoughts of a physical imperfection into interactions with ppl, especially women. With me, it's my eyes that aren't "perfect" -- bags, small veins underneath -- so I'm thinking about it when I make eye contact w/ ppl. At the same time, I'm above-average looking and style is my thing. I'm working hard to just say F it!

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Bruce B.

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

i agree there is a difference between being a nice guy and a good guy. nice guys are submissive approval seekers from girls, while good guys stay true to their values, beliefs, character, etc, even if it means calling out the girl as mentioned above.

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chevon gr

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

cathy j wow i must say ur very inspiring,i really like your style, this guy you saw years back is more improve,you see his value you said you see a little confidense in him ,how amazing to see people transform,but i can't question if he's happy you responds his wife died.thats not something that makes anyone happy and to pay respect i'mma leave her in peace.and i feel where you at in the potential' this guy i hate to say is the guy that send you rose,maybe things hapen for a reason but i bet he's not too awarding.you have said that if he had kissed you you will think of it differently now your saying he was nothing more than just bestfriends,imagine if he had kissed you.I mean you said if he had kissed you you'll react differently it seems to me you wouldn't act differently at all,cuz that feeling right now still think all he was just a good friend.PERIOD.so i'm thinking that this nice guy was bold and confident but didn't express it,the fact is everyone have confidence nice guys bad boys everyone has confidence they just don't show it often,or don't know how to show it.and cathy in your situation he wouldn't have moved on to know that you weren't interested if he didn't send you that flowers cuz face it if you did liked him in a way you won't think he's a nice guy but you'll think he's your guy.The guy was smart and bold and had the guts to move on and come back even stronger and that amazing but whats even more special is ,he' able to be himself in a way.and in my oppinion he wasn't catorize as a nice guy,cuz i don't feel peopelshould be catorize by this at all,i tink thsis is an excuse that people tell themself when teh are not attracted to someone at all,they focus on everything that person is doing,and to be honest maybe bad gust might be right maybe some people don't deserves a certain person,who deep down respected them.

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Curt

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

podcast idea!!!!!!!!!!!! How to create the attractor factor!!!!!!

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Drew

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Few people are truly amazing. This is a powerful podcast, but it's simply not true. Of course David thinks we're amazing. Most people here have paid for his products. Money is an incredible thing, isn't it? Look, I try to follow David's advice, but it is NOT universal. If it were, it would work for me. Tell me what's special about me.

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Drew

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

And I'm not trying to be controversial for the sake of being controversial. I'm just saying, be wary. I'd love to talk to David, just not for 300 dollars per hour. I would LOVE to be able to completely rid approach anxiety. Don't get me wrong, David has helped me, but I think I'm the one person he can't completely get through to.

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Sonny

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

See, this type of podcast really speaks to me. I often read online about the subjects of women, dating and attraction. It's soooooooo hard for me to attract women because I probably send 'em running for the hills with my insecure bullshit. I need to work on myself and MY issues and get MY shit together so I can be deserving of a woman who is as beautiful as I one day aspire to be. More podcasts like this, David. Thanks!

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harald

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

My name is Harald Evjan furuholmen And MY PROBLEM isnt that i feel ugly or wrong AT ALL.....I feel that im the greatest person in the world, thet im gonna be FAMOUS and the best chef ever and the best piano player ever and i ALLWAYS smile, to everyone on the street. to everyone on the buss. to EVERYONE! and feel confident. BUT when i come to a woman its either that i dont have anything to say or i walk up to her and say something that makes me look fake and just plain BULLSHIT. And i dont get that because when i meet someone who are way older than me ( im 15 so ive got all the time in the world) IT JUST WORKS! even if she is 19 and SEXY and all that! THEN I GET MY SHIT TOGETHER! BECAUSE something in me is saying that HEY! whats the rush? if you screw up shel just think your a silly little boy AND by thinking that there isnt even ONE thing that i have to loose it just works! BUT (yeah here comes the shitty part) The women that are older than me just dont attract me in the same way as the girls on my age wich makes it easier. BUT I CANT SEEM TO GET THE GIRLS THAT I WANT i cant seem to put that same strategy even tho im not anxius or ANYTHING And thats why I ask you david WHAT CAN I DO!?!?!?!?!

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Greg

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Good guy vs nice guy, interesting analogy. A few steps I've taken to improve my social skills: -direct and prolonged eye-contact -relaxing, deep breathing, recognizing when I'm becoming tense -listening while staying relaxed and learning -overcoming the 'monkey chatter' (listening!) My biggest realization has been to lose my ego and expectations. I now see social situations as an opportunity to grow and learn, rather than 'get' something or let my ego run. I'm involved in a Toastmaster's club and would definately recommend this as an avenue to broaden ones social skills. What I still need to improve on is my work situation. I can tell women are attracted to me from their flirtatious actions and eye contact. Yet, I am insecure in being unemployed and this really effects my confidence. Starting a personal life when my vocation isn't under control doesn't feel good. We all need to improve in our own areas.

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Greg

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Drew, it sounds like you are frustrated. I used to feel just like you. I think David is saying we are amazing in who we are and in what our potential is. I can see the same concepts of his teachings in how I've taught music lessons. One of the most common questions I'm asked as a musician is: how do you improvise? I tell them I practiced classical for many years, listened to recordings, worked on my timing, improved my technique... You get the idea? It's taken alot of hard work and I still am working on perfecting my art. Only the few people determined to work hard will improvise well in music. If you have approach anxiety, it will take practice to overcome it. The way I've always looked at it is like this: I'm proud of my accomplishments in music and know the work behind them. I've had to become very mentally tough to accomplish my athletic goals. You see? Now it's really easy to talk to the woman you want to talk to. Think of something your proud of. Think of the work behind that. Now going to say hi to that blonde across the room is easy!

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Curt

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

podcast idea!!!!!!!!!! How to get the girl who got out of relationship with somebody else?

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mario

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

how to get a girl whos in a relationship already?

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Farley

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

How to get the girl who's in a relationship already....hmmmm... Convey your awesome personality, and if that doesn't work....there are a million other women out there.

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Charles

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

Well loving the podcast. Here is a good idea, how to get a girl to fall out of love with you and then back again.

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Thursday, April 29th, 2010

I've always wanted to know how to get out of the "friend zone" once your already there. The problem is with ANY site that gives dating advice is that they tell you how to avoid the friend zone from the beginning. But I'm sure I'm not the only guy who has a female friend that he wants to make fall in love with him

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Khiem (DW Coach)

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

Drew, If you wanted to talk to David, you could just send him one email. He usually answers one email free of charge. And if you really want to talk to him, the membership site is for that. For a minimal charge, you can talk to him directly during our conference calls. Truth is... why do you feel he wouldn't be able to get through to you? What's blocking you?

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Khiem (DW Coach)

Thursday, April 29th, 2010

Harald, Just let yourself out! You claim you feel amazing but not when you are in front of women you like. Why do you feel you have to impress them? Talk to them normally... and slowly share and show them why you feel so great. They'll make their own judgment of you.

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limewire

Friday, April 30th, 2010

wow cool info bro.

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Khiem (DW Coach)

Friday, April 30th, 2010

Annonymous, For you to get out of the friend's zone, you need to change the way your female friend perceive you. Does she get turned on or intrigued when she talks to you? Being friend with a girl just means she's comfortable with you. But now, you need to make her respect the (sexual) man in you. Watch how you interact with her? Do you engage her emotionally in your life or do you guys just interact without really engaging each other on a deeper level?

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Sunday, May 2nd, 2010

David, that was some of the most touching info iv heard! thank you!

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harald

Thursday, May 6th, 2010

Thanks Khiem! realy apreciated it and used it and as it turns out IT ALL works! thanks again! apreciate getting answers as we say in norway HADE PÅ BADET DIN GAMLE SJOKOLADE!

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