Charles By David Wygant

Saturday in the park……can any one tell me that song….or I am just pushing you in the right direction today?

I want to share a story with you about a client I had whose name is Charles. Charles was someone who was extremely quiet when we first met – he actually was so quiet that you couldn’t hear him speak in a restaurant. He also didn’t dress well. He was a good-looking guy, but he didn’t have any confidence.

So we went out and did a complete makeover, from head to toe. We gave him an incredible new look that really fit him well. It’s funny, because he showed up one night to go out in his brand new look, and we played the game that I love playing. It’s one of my favorite games that I love to play with a waitress.

It’s called the Guess What We All Do for a Living game. The waitress is hanging out and working, and she gets a lot of different people hitting on her in different ways, and she’s able to read people. So we were talking to her a bit, and then I asked her, “guess what we all do for a living?”

She looked at Charles, and she said, “hm. He looks like he’s a fashion photographer from London.” And Charles’ mouth just went from side to side – here’s a guy who didn’t have any confidence, and all of a sudden, this woman thought he was a fashion photographer from London. It made him feel really good.

So the look was completed, but what he did after the fact was also really important. After the coach session, he did a couple of things – you want to go out there not only to stores and be friendly with people, and restaurants, but you want to have activities. You want to create dates with yourself. You want to create a social calendar with yourself.

Some of the great things to do with yourself are to volunteer at a dog rescue place that gives out dogs on a Saturday or Sunday in the park or wherever. By volunteering at a dog rescue place, you’re forced to meet people, talk to them, and get to know them.

Another idea is to become a tour guide of the city. Going and showing tour groups around different neighborhoods in your city will help you to learn people. The more you learn people, the better you’ll be at understanding people and flirting.

One of the best things to do is to take an Improv class. An Improv class will teach you how to be quick, how to be observant – if you think about Improv, you have you get up in front of the entire class, and the teacher says, “red,” and you say, “blue” – and you have to concentrate really hard on what the other person is saying. Improv class will also teach you how to be playful and more fun.

Those are some really good suggestions, but I think everybody who is single should have a social calendar. Get the free weekly newspaper on a Thursday and find things to do. There are art gallery openings, and many other things that you can do and put on your social calendar.

Start booking dates with yourself. All of a sudden, you’ll start finding other people who do the same thing. Then you can begin to expand your social network.

Todays video goes over how to start doing all of this and lose the negative monkey chatter in your brain!!

Have a great Saturday!